DESPARATE FOR ADVISE!! -

Hi there

I have today received back a sealed copy of my Consent Order from the courts (i did a diy divorce) and already my ex is giving me hassle about paying him.

The problem is that he has no bank account and cannot get one at the minute.Would i be able to give him a cheque in his relatives name and sign a mutual receipt with him to prove that i have paid him?

Im just a little unsure about whether this is enough proof to finish it once and for all.
The notice to make the decris absolute was given to the court today and assume that i am now divorced

i am hoping that this would be enough proof as he is getting extremely resltless now and i dont want the grief anymore.

id be grateful for any advise

thanks

Hello

I sent a pm i assume you didnt get it.

Rather than give the money to a relative of his why not place it on account with his solicitor with their agreament then your safe.

sorry, i dont know if hes even got a solicitor. thats the problem.

he told me that he has tried to open an account but because he has no proof of address he is unable to do so.

Hi

If he is desperate for the money why not ask him to get one i dont think sending the money to a relative is very wise, the cost for him should be fairly low then he can instruct them as he pleases leaveing you safe with proof of payment.

thanks. ill suggest that but i dont think it will go down too well.

Give him a cheque. Fotocopy the cheque for your records. Include a cover letter (ideally from your solicitor rather than from you) explaining what the cheque covers. It's his problem that he doesn't have a bank account, not yours.

To open a bank account, he has to (a) have a residential address and (b) have proof of that address, such as a lease or utility bill. If he choses to behave in an irresponsible manner that makes this basic fact of adulthood difficult for him, that's his choice resulting in his problem, not yours.

if i were him, and you gave me a cheque, I'd be off to cash it in a jif. Having a cheque of what is probably some magnatude should pave the way towards his ability to open a bank account. If he's some kind of neurotic asshole, he'll waste your time calling you and pestering you to find another way to pay him rather than take on the responsibilities necessary for him to open a bank account. Don't fall for it. You've done your bit.

this is his problem not your! Send a recordrd letter advising that the money is available and until such time as you are provided with a secure method in which to release this money there is nothing further that you can do. Pass the buck back where it belongs