Very long post - what next???

Sorry this is such a long post - congrats if you get to the end!

My soon to be ex husband went on a day trip with the person he claims not to have any feelings for, he then ignored 2 txts from me asking when he would be home, 5 phone calls, answered then immediately hung up, then ignored 5 more phone calls from me. He then finally responded when I told him I was on my way to the hospital.

I had been at work most of the day wondering why on earth he had to take this woman with him and beating myself up about it and then got my dd home from school and simply tried to call him. I got myself so worked up that at 5 o'clock I collapsed on the dining room floor and called my Mum (I am 20 weeks pregnant). She told me to come to her house (she had no way of getting to me and I had assured her I could drive) and she was then going to accompany me to the hospital (Hence the phone call to H). When he got the message about the hospital he said he would be back as soon as he could. Meanwhile I went with our dd to stay at my Mums. I recovered wuite quickly after a bout of violent sickness and decided not to go to the hospital as it meant disruption for dd.

We phoned the house at 10.45 to let him know where we were and he didn't answer the phone. (He was at most 4 hours away when he left the message about getting home quickly - I later found out he had stopped for dinner on the way home!)

I didn't hear from him until 8.45 the next day when he asked if he would be taking dd to school! I went home that night at 7.30pm and promptly went out with my Dad as H had brought into the house with him some items I will list...

A birthday present for our dd from the woman he claims to have no feelings for depsite my evidence to the contrary.
A Christmas present for our dd from this woman.
A birthday card for our dd from her
A christmas card from her to dd (inside the greeting is lots of love)
A christmas card from her to me (inside the greeting is best wishes)
A christmas card from her to my H (Inside the greeting is to my new best friend, to the best **** in the world, or the most entertaining ***. Life with you in it will never be dull.

The stars represent his hobby.

At first I accepted his explanation that she was just being nice and that maybe I was overreacting when I said I wasn't happy about it, but remember I have evidence that these 2 are sharing more than just a hobby.

I confronted him about it and he called me stupid told me I was paranoid and that's why he doesn't want to be with me anymore.

Later that morning I again collapsed with the stress of the situation (I have asked him may many times to move out of the home so that dd & I can just have some peace until after Christmas. and he has refused as he wants the house). My parents said enough is enough and bundled as much stuff as possible into our cars and moved me into their house (which is smaller than our house so I was sharing a bed with dd & things were tight all round). I asked him that day to make sure I could have access to the house as I needed to bake dd's birthday cake, he assured me that he would not ask for my keys back and would not change the locks etc. I trusted him (maybe I am stupid) and left expecting to be able to bake my little girl's cake today.

This morning I went to the house to pick up a few things and low and behold he has changed the locks. After beating myself up for a while I called him and asked him to return to the house and let me in or I would call the police and gain entry. He refused to return saying that the police would not help me and that I was being unreasonable. I called the police, they let me in to my house and advised me to change the locks myself and take up residence, also to try and get an injunction out against him as from what they saw I had a pretty good cause. My sol also advises I take up residence. This I have done and I am in the house my dd is still with my parents as I felt sure he would cause trouble this evening.

He came to the house at 10.30 and proceeded to wander round the house a few times, then get the stuff I had left out for him, he then sat in his car and pretended to go to sleep to either make me feel guilty or to make me feel threatened. So I called the police and they asked him nicely to leave.

I am now worried that he will return to the house whilst I am taking dd to school and get in by force (he is legally entitled to do this as it is half his house.) Once he has done that he will change the locks again and we will be back to square one.

Why can't he just accept that his daughter needs to be in her own home without her Mummy feeling threatened and so stressed she collapses? I am beginning to really despise this man who I considered to be my best friend only 3 months ago.

I am also worrried that I am starting to feel sorry for him, which is what got me in this position in the 1st place. He is so manipulative and has managed to make me feel as though it is my fault he is not seeing his daughter as much as he (or she) would like.

Sorry for such a long post I needed to vent!!!

NLx