Introducing myself ....

Hi everyone, registered last night only, so new to the site. My name is Liza and I am on the verge of divorce proceedings. After a very quick browse of the site last night, I see there is a lot of very useful information. So thanks for that. If I'm honest, this is a scarey time for me. My first marriage and first divorce. I've sought initial legal advice from a local solicitor. Terrified of the costs involved. Anyway, just wanted to say HI to you all and ... see you around the site, no doubt.
Liza

HI Liza,

Welcome to wiki,

Of course its scary,

You will get lots of advice and support here, both emotional and legal,

So keep going,

Debs x

Hallo Liza

this is a scary and sad and angry and all sorts of other negative emotions time.

But you will get through it.

I'm separated from my husband and have not yet started divorce proceedings. I'm building up my confidence and learning to be alone rather than half of a couple.

As you will see from this site, we are far from alone in our situations.

Best wishes

Helen

Hi

I'm in a very similar situation to Liza and am delighted to have come across this site.

Nice to meet you all!

In the next week or so I am finally filing for a divorce. We have been married 30 years and have a son 20 and a dsughter 18. I should have started the divorce a year ago but I didn't want to screw up my daughter's Senior year or make her move to a new school in her last year, she works to hard, she doesn't desreve the hassle.

I fell in love with this woman the very first time I laid eyes on her. She was and sadly still is the very breath of my soul. If only it was that way for her.

We have both screwed up and cheated in the past, that is not the problem, the problem is I can live with her mistake, I can and have put it behind us. Again sadly she can not live with my mistake, she cannot or I should say will not put it behind us. In doing so she has pushed me away, made me and us the last priority in her life. Everything elsse comes before us/me and there is no time or energy for us/me.

I am an old fashioned passionate and romantic italian guy. I like to make love in front of a firplace, give her warm oil massages, make her cndle light dinners and none of that matters to her. She allows us 30 minutes a week to have sex, not make love, just have sex and I quote, "come on let's do it and get our rocks off". Can't tell you when she last kissed me like she used to, or when she last told me I want you. She also says that 50 and 55 year old people married 30 years shouldn't need the intimacy(sex) that we used to, people and relationships grow old, people get comfortable, the passion and lust once there drifts away.

I have never, ever felt so alone and lonnely. We sleep in seperate rooms. We don't hold hands or hug, it's all gone and she doen't want it or miss it.

Nothing I say or have said or done in the last two years meanss anything. She sya we could just go on like this because it would be better than having nothing or no one. I can't live like that, I want to be loved and wanted and desired.

Have to go for a while, just need to say these things to someone, she isn't listening anymore.