Just saying hello

Hi Everyone. I've only just joined the site but already I feel at home here. I am 34 years old and have been separated from my husband for 3 months now. He came to me a couple of days after our 6th wedding anniversary and said he no longer loved me. Thats a hard thing to hear from the person you hoped you'd spend the rest of your life with but I guess so many of us here knows how that feels.
We were living in Canada at the time and he asked me to come back to England for a while, to give us time to decide what we wanted. He had obviously already decided coz while I was away he started seeing someone I considered to be a friend. I only found out when another friend told me.
I am now living back in England with my parents and am slowly rebuilding my life again. I came back with one suitcase and a couple of boxes. Not much to show for a lifetime is it? Its been tough - leaving my home, my friends and a new country that I had fallen in love with, all on top of the stress of the separation. Sometimes I get so angry and bitter about it all. I am just so lucky to have such wonderful and supportive friends and family. I don't know what I would do without them.
I still wake up in the morning and wonder how all this happened and whether I will ever be happy and loved again. I really believed he was the one and that we would be together forever. I guess I should have known better though as to date I am his 3rd wife. The thing that surprised me most was by how nasty he became. It was almost like it was a competition to see how much he could hurt me. He could say whatever he liked and I was expected to sit and take it but the one time I retaliated he physically threw me out of the house. I honestly don't know what happened to the kind and loving man I married.
Anyway thats enough about me for now. I'm sure I've depressed you all enough for now. I would love to hear from happy stories. Take care all
Jane

Hi there & welcome to Wikki. I'm sorry for what you're going through, ive been there too. My hubby of 16 years went off with a younger woman 2 years ago, kept it all secret until i found out a year later & filed for adultery. I got my decree 8th Dec & on 9th i went out to celebrate my freedom & met a guy that i like a lot.. Ive had 2 years of hell with my ex & never ever thought i would let a man into my life again, but it just felt right somehow?
I dont care if it doesnt last, at least i know i still have my heart intact, my ex could never take that from me. I live life to the full now, one day at a time, trying not to look back with misery or regret, i fully accept the marriage break-up wasnt my fault. Affairs destroy lives if you let them, mine was in tatters for months but i picked myself up, got out there & found strength again in this site.
One day you too will start dating again & you will also find someone that makes you feel attractive, special, sexy & loved!
Keep in touch, if i can help in any way feel free to contact me.
Take care
Cindy

Hi Jane, my name is Liza. I'm very new to the site also. So sorry to hear of your predicament. All I will say is that you are young and you will get through this and one day, believe me, you will look back and be GLAD it happened. Perhaps not the way it happened, but glad that it did.
Good luck and hope to see you around the site.
I'm just on the verge of breaking up with my husband of 12 years. Not an easy time. But there is some excellent advice on the site.
Be strong okay.
Liza x