new start, new year

Hi to all

Decided to start the new year with joining the site and hopefully getting advice and support and maybe even making some new friends!
Been married for ever, with two lovely children-slight contradiction as both are now hormonal teenagers!! Problems in the marriage for years, finally had enough of his 'close friendships' with other women and controlling manipulative behaviour.
Moved out reluctantly to regain my life-it IS too short and i've wasted enough of my life on him.
Glad to be here and hope i get the 'hang of it'-bit of a techno phobe at heart!

Hollee:kiss:

Hallo Hollee

welcome to a place where everyone is hoping 2009 is better!

I was with my ex for 31 years, 18 of them married. We have two teenage boys, one nearly 17 who is a worry as he left school after GCSEs and has shown no interest in getting a job or training and is hanging around with the wrong sort (I know I am not the only Mum with kids like that and that most of them end up OK but that doesn't stop the worry) and one of 14 who is in 1st year of GCSEs.

Our relationship had deteriorated a lot, but ex finally moved out when he found another woman to do his washing etc. He's only 5 minutes' drive away but has only recently started doing more for the boys because - and he told me this! - he got told off about not making an effort at a dinner party!

When he came round on Boxing day to take the boys to his place he wanted to chat to my Mum as though nothing had happened. She found it quite odd, but that's how he has been.

I'm on anti-depressants and seeing a counsellor every week, which I think is helping.

Keep posting - you are not the only one in this situation!

Hi No regret,
I feel so sorry for you , please look after the 17 years old ,he will soon realise what you going through,my son was doing a bit the same , but I explain to him when I went for parent evening , teacher will insult him about his grade , then I didn't told him off but explain to him that look at my life , it's not easy for me to make sure that you got a good education , if not I could dump you and go and find someone else but I love you more than having another man in my life or someone to come and bully you and you can see it's not easy when the bill come . so I ask him to do whatever he can do to be able to go to Uni and get a good job for himself not for me .With Gods help I won , My son did listen , he didn't go to much with his friend . Forget about your husband he's been cruel to you and the children. Now enjoyed your life what infront of you , your two children that is the pleasure that god gave us after the husband leave.Take care . God Bless.

Hi there

Like yourself I have decided to make a new start in this coming new year.

I am 56, well 57 next February, have been married for 25 years last November but our relationship has deteriorated because of his past friendships and I feel now is the time to get out. He admitted recently he didnt love me anymore and to be honest I dont think I love him either.

It is now make or break time and I want a life where I can be myself, which is something I never seemed to be allowed to do with him.

Jules

Hi Hollie and Julesmun!

Welcome to wiki, you'll find it all here!

hi holle and jules mum,just want to welcome you,
Hope we can make your journey a bit lighter and in the process you will make some friends.Hope to see you in chat.You will find it very useful and helpful.
all the best
wiki hug to you both
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