Why I am here.

Thought I'd beter introduice myself as per the instrution in the welcume email from Wikivorce so you know my story.
I been married 6 years and am 35 years old. I am a florist and met my husband throuh work and we got married after a short romance.
It seems he never left his boyfriend though and this Xmas it all came to a head when he bought him a eternaty ring.
So now am on my own, with no family to help and was looking for some advise when I came on this site.

Doing bad at the moment, Tiger Rose.

Hi Tiger

Welcome to wiki hun.

You are going through an awful time at the moment when you feel so helpless.

My husband left 3 months ago when i discovered his affair and i can honestly say at the time it destroyed me.

You say you have no family but what about friends? Please do not try and go through this alone and isolate yourself. I did and it made things 10 times worse.

Be kind to yourself. Cry, scream if you have to. Try not to worry about day to day things too much, just concentrate on yourself and try to eat.

It may not seem it at the moment but it really does get easier if you allow yourself to grieve and except help from people.

This website has been a lifeline to me and many others. Please keep posting and pop into chat, there's always someone there to listen who knows exactly what your going through.

Hi Tiger Rose

This must be awful for you.

I agree with Lizzy. I was going through a terrible time when i stumbled on this site, and i've never looked back. you get endless uncondtional support, good friends and there is always someone to talk to.

Not only does it really get easier, but also you start seeing things a lot more clearly. sometimes you just cannot see the woods for the trees. but it'll pass.

I was in such a bad place for years and I had alienated my friends and shut them out completely. When he dropped his bomb, i was distraught. unable to breathe. i contacted old friends who were absolutely amazing. and they helped me through the first stage of total devastation. Wiki helped me by providing vital information, and a place where i could share with people who were going through similar.

you need to take care of yourself physically and emotionally. you need to eat and sleep and rest, and give yourself the space to cry and stare (like Lizzy said).
Believe me, you will move on and it will get better

Best
Rani