Reasonable or foolish?

Hello, my name is Sean. My wife and I are divorcing by consent after nearly 3 yrs apart, we have 2 lovely daughters who I see regularly and we have been to mediation to deal the financial settlement. We have agreed that my wife will have the house, I will have Clean Break but continue to support the children of course. For 2 years things were hell, but that changed when I changed I suppose. I decided that in order to move forward, I would have to make serious financial sacrifices and let go of any thoughts I had of 'fairness' and 'my rights'. I don't think either side ever comes out of this process as the 'winner', but I do feel better for letting go of lost causes (including my marriage) and feel very positive about my future now, which is only partly about money, is down to me to make happen, and I have the freedom to achieve.

Hallo and welcome Sean

Marriage breakdown is never easy. My ex and I have been separated 6 months and I've found myself thinking "he'll have to fight me for xyz" or "I don't care about him having xyz so long as I am free of him".

I don't intend to start divorce proceedings till we've been apart 2 years because that way I don't have to list what's wrong with him (not enough paper!) and we will both have become less emotional about it and more reasonable I hope.

Divorce involves emotional and financial splits and its so easy for the first to blind you to making the right decisions for the second. So many people end up spending a fortune in legal fees or end up with less than they should.

You sound quite sensible and I hope your divorce goes as smoothy as is possible.

Keep posting.