Introducing myself

I am 52 years old and have been married for 33 years, in the first week of October I was told by a friend that my husband was involved with a woman he worked with, she told me her name and that she was only 25 years old, when I confronted my 60 year old husband he said that he was fond of her but he was also fond of poodles but that did not mean he would have sex with one, like a fool I believed him. The last week in October he started going out and staying out till 2pm, he was all dressed up and wearing alot of aftershave, he was even taking his mobile with him when having a shower but still denied seeing anyone else.

To cut a long story short he moved out in November and took the poodle on a ten day holiday we had planned to go on together, when they got back from holiday they moved into a house together. He is now demanding we sell the house so that he can have his share of its value because he has run up huge debts, he says that he will go bankrupt if I dont agree to put the house up for sale and i will lose my
share anyway. how can he do something like this when I have loved and cared for him for 33 years, he never gave a hint that anything was wrong with our relationship, never told me that he was disatisfied, this is tearing me apart
and I feel so lonely and am in so much pain, its been a few months now, when does the pain go away?

(((((((((Ang52))))))) I'm so sorry that he has done this to you, some people just don't act human at all! So many of us here have been through exactly the same as you, it hurts so much & you think life cant get any worse than it is. We will never understand why they do it cos we aren't like them. In my opinion they are selfish, lying cheats & not worth our tears. I'm sure it won't last, the age gap is far too wide, she might be using him for his money & he thinks he is onto a good thing & lets her do it!
You will get lots of support here, we all know how you feel, just read the other posts here to see how far we've come after suffering the same.
You will get through this & i hope its before he tries to come home, he doesn't deserve a good wife like you & should suffer when she dumps him in the future!
Keep posting, you will get lots of replies soon, just hang in there,
Cindy

((((ang52))))))

I have no idea how long or if the pain ever goes away, but its such a devastating early time for you at the moment. You will find a lot of support knowledge and similar experiences here to help. I just wanted to say that you should be thinking of you and what you need and ignoring your hubbys needs and wants regards money just now....he made his bed...yes I know the finances need to be sorted out but as you will see from the posts here....not at the pace the x demands/wants/needs.

Take care

Elle