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Hi everyone,
I'm 56, my divorce is almost done, I've had the nisi. Just sorting out pension details. In December it would have been our 35th anniversary. We have 2 grown up children, 31 and 25.
I left because basically he wanted me to, he made life very unpleasant, he ignored me, and I discovered that he had been involved with online dating sites 3 months prior to him telling me he was unhappy.
I had been feeling unhappy for some time but as he seemed to be OK I assumed it was me, time of life and all that.
He petitioned for divorce, giving my unreasonable behaviour as grounds, and telling untruths to use those grounds. I think he has been less than truthful with his new partner about the situation.
Although I'm glad to be rid, and I'm happy with a new partner who gives me love and support, it hurts to have had it done this way.

Hi welcome to wiki

Alot of this forum have had mud slung by the ex's at them your not alone there, keep posting any questions you have ,live legal surgery is back in chat on the 5th Jan 6 - 8pm or maybe you would like to come into chat for some support and friendly banter.

Hi Deroma

Welcome to Wiki!! It's great to shares your hopes and fears with others on here.. I too had a long marriage 23 years. I am divorced now but still sorting out details house etc.

I thad a turbulent marriage with a very controlling husband. I hope you find the happiness you are looking for wiht your new partner.

And never ever blame yourself for this. My ex ahas always blamed me for things that went worng - but hey it takes two?

Molx

Thanks, will try to do that.

Thanks, I've stopped taking the blame for everything now. Ex could never accept responsibility for anything-even when he got drunk and threw up he blamed the food...
I kept hoping he'd grow up.
He doesn't like the fact that I stand up to him now, and when I email or text him (very rarely-no other contact) I usually get one back telling me I'm antagonistic, and intransigent, and being difficult, and holding things up, when in fact it's the other way round. He also doesn't like the fact that I've withheld my address from him so far. I know he's told people a different story to what happened, of course. However, I know the people who matter most to me know the truth.