Advice

Hello, im after some advice. My wife left me in october 2008 for another man who promised her the world after nearly 14 years of marriage. The divorce proceedings have been on the way since end of october 2008. After moving out in october and leaving me with the 2 girls aged 5 and 8 because she wanted her life back, suddenly only a month later her new man left her because he was still married and playing about. Now my wife is saying she wants to take the kids and move away to start a new life elsewhere, shes looking in areas around 100-150 miles from where i live. i dont drive and would find it hard to see the kids, would the courts grant her custody because she is the mother or would they allow me to have one of the children. its a shame but each child has their favourite parent and this has really been showed over the last few weeks with tears and turmoil especially the youngest. My wife seems to think that because she is the mother the courts will see this in her favour irrelevant of what she has done, by walking out, is this true, do i have any say?

Hi Max

Welcome to Wiki! Sorry about your situation.

I suggest you try and talk to your wife and see if you can sort things out. Divorce is not a nice thing, and if you can salvage your marriage it is worth both of you giving it your best shot. If you are prepared to both work at it you can start a new life together rather than uprooting the kids.

If she still feels that she wants to uproot them then again you should talk together to decide if you really want to split the children up and you have residence of one and her the other (the term custody no longer applies)

Ideally you should try and sort things out between the 2 of you, but if you cannot then you will need to post more information.

Good luck

Steve

not good to see children as having a favourite parent, this changes to and fro over the years in my experience, and i have brought up five two of my own and three step children . very young children tends to be the mother, then according the gender, stage of development childrne will go go different parent for different needs so not a black and white area at all . sounds like you could do with finding out what was the pull of the other person, what could be salvaged if possible. also remember that siblings need each other, that is the relationship where they find out about others, play, fight compete etc .