What do I do next???

Jangles,
as you are the one not happy with the marriage, why don't you just move out?

PerryPower, if only it was that simple! Until I sort the finances out I can't go anywhere, I don't have family to depend upon and he won't go back to his parents house.

So unfortunately we're stuck for the time being! I plan to arrange a meeting with CAB and see how I'd fair financially and take it from there!

Probably have to sell family home to enable us to finance two much smaller places, which I don't want to do (for my daughters sakes) but if it's the only option, then it's what I'll have to do.

Thanks for your support though, like the others it's good to know someone is there to offer advice

Angela

Jangles,
you need to be aware of how difficult it is to be separated, but living together and I am concerned that the two of you may end up in bad siutation that neither is equiped to cope with...

Hi
My story is very similar to yours except my husband first cheated when my son was 2. Then I found out he had a mistress for 4 years. My son is now 15 and although a awkward time since he is writing his GCSEs I knew that I had to get out.
I asked him to move out and he did. I am doing my own divorce as I am afraid of him racking up the costs by being spiteful.

What made me decide to leave was that when a man cheats he has no committment to he marriage. The longer you stay the more painful it is to leave. You only have one life, so do what is right for you.

Best of luck: