New Kid on the block

Hi all obviously new to the site, I came accross Wiki looking for advice on all aspects of seperation.

I have been married for some time and have two children, I have been seperated since April 08 but not legally. The seperation was caused I believe the term used is growing apart. I have continued to pay all the cost involving the family home and still am to this day ( Its a safe home for my children) as you can imagine this has left me rather short financially. My wife works and earns a good income, I have discussed these issues with little progress. What can I do to address this issue?

I have moved back into the family home to ensure I am not accused of moving out (I did but that was to keep the piece)and to spend time with my children. Over the passed months I have stayed at various places but have always been back at the family home to take the children to school and on agreed nights to meet from school homework/play/cook and so on.... We both are aware of the childrens feelings and do work hard to protect them.

I was excluded from my home during xmas and was allowed to see my chidren for two hours on xmas day. Post xmas has left me fealing very dispondent especially now I have been informed of what my wife requires to progress the seperation forward, that is; She has residency of children, I release my share of the family home and she will claim 50% of my pension. Oh yes I forgot she would also like to keep the house contents as I have obviously know where to put them!! (I did find this funny)

I do understand their is entitlements for both parties but I feel I am being pushed into a corner hence the search for advice! I have little cash flow but have booked an initial appointment with a solicitor. What advice or guidance has been proven best practice???

My main concern has been the welfare of my children, but someware down the line I need to protect myself!!?

Thanks for listening

Hi Charlie,

It was nice to talk to you in chat earlier on today!

The best advice I ever received was to try and get as much as possible agreed directly with my ex. Unfortunately she never received the same advice, in fact she received quite the opposite!

My advice was from Wikipeeps, hers was from her solicitor. Hmmmmm . . .

Good luck matey!

YA

Thanks I agree with you i need to encourage if possible as much detail without the solicitors taking their cut.

Cheers