Anyone here from Glasgow,Scotland,UK?

Hi,I've just joined and wonder if there's any support groups/individuals who may like to meet up/e-mail/private message in my area?
My divorce finally came through last year after nearly four and a half years of separation and considerable stress(financial/legal/emotional)on the way.
Now I have the "piece of paper" I still don't feel it's the end,given the circumstances surrounding our split and the DH's subsequent behaviour and the fact that a third party was involved(only finding this out in a horrible way but that's another story!)
Feel I can't move on and my health is suffering(depression,anxiety,loss of purpose,chronic stress-related skin problems etc)
As people rightly say,existing friends get "compassion fatigue" very soon and some are quick to tell you(often unkindly)that you're being a whinger/bore etc.....
Thanks for any help/info!

Miss Haversham,

Pleased to meet you albeit not in the best of circumstances!!! I am a weegie not living in Glasgow but not far away. There are a few people from Scotland on wiki and as you explore they will rear their lovely heads. Please feel free to pm me as we all have good and bad days but recognise as you say our friends are support weary and not always too understanding.

Aw ra best

Elle

Hi,Elle! Thanks for the reply and kind words....
I'm not actually a Weegie myself-I'm a "resident alien" but I've been in Glasgow for 26 years(and two in Aberdeen before that!)
I think it would be a whole new thread of posting going into how the reactions of some "friends"/family actually make matters worse when a person is going through a divorce-just when your self-esteem is rock-bottom anyway some individuals conspire to kick you when you're down.
I've found it almost worse than the divorce itself,finding out that some long-tern "friends"(of 20 years or so)turned out to have been of the "fair weather" type at best or of the "put the boot in" type at worst.
Has any body else found this too?

Wotever...nice to meet you ....and if u feel the need for a thread..go for it.

As you say....we find our true friends when the shxt hits

Elle

Hi
Just a quick hello
Not from Glasgow - but just outside Edinburgh.
Ive only been seperated 7 months - not finding things easy at the moment. Have a small circle of friends who are supportive but im very concious that i dont want to be all doom and gloom all the time about the situation im in. Have young daughter and elderly mother who take up most of my time these days - when i feel like letting of steam or just want to moan about things - i come on here - everyone is really helpful and understanding.

take care

Hi Miss Haversham,

I live not too far from Glasgow.
The people of Wikivorce have been a great help and a great site to browse, many of us have gone through this route and give the rest of us good advice. I am living more or less a living a separate life and looking forward to the
day when I can spread my wings and be free again. To tell you truth my last few months have not been as bad as the last couple of years as I kept it bottled it up inside
I, once having told those close to me was the best thing I did and now feel happier and stronger. Don’t know when my divorce will come through so I can get on with my life and do as ‘I’ please. I see some folk out there who too are divorced and they seem happy enough so way can’t I, I say to myself ?
You say close family and friends get ‘compassion fatigue’ I totally agree. I now try and tell them as little as possible unless they ask me. But those I have told have been very supportive.
There a good bunch of people on wiki look on the bright side now- Your free now four and half years was a long time dude. Make the most of what you have, lift your head high and make the most of everything around you.
Get onto some creative fun evening courses at various colleges and make new friends along the way I am going to do that!

Cisco

Hi,Tinkerbelle & Cisco-thanks for the posts and kind words!
Hope that all our respective situations improve-and soon....