survival tactics

Hi Guys,
am new to this site and would be grateful for any tips on how to survive this whole mess and get out the other side!

Have just decided to split after having been in bad realtionship for some time- been together for 4 years. Am going to be stuck living in the same house for sometime to come and have no idea how to deal with it. Would find it so much easier if he were to go. It is a mutual decision but there are still some feelings there and think that will make it so much harder.
Any ideas on how to make the best of this horrible situation?

Hi Tracyo

Treat you spouse like someone you have just met in the street. Be courteous, polite and don't get involved in any relationship talks.

Get things sorted in YOUR life, new hobbies, friends, keep yourself well, get as much sleep as you can and eat well.

I understand too well the situation and I'm afraid there is no easy way. Just be yourself and look after yourself. Don't bite back if there are any arguments, walk away. If you feel the need to repsond, don't do it from emotion, take a step back, say "let me get back to you on that one" and go away and think about how to respond rather than offering a 'knee jerk' response.

Hang in there and take it easy.

I second all that lsot has said. If I can just add to what he has said. Learn to reply in your head. If you dont say something you cant be pulled up on it. This is very important. Keep everything you do private. As you would from someone you met at the bus stop. They are strangers now and you have to assume that they will do you harm. C

Thank u for this. It is helpful to think of them as someone I've just met - I will try that .