Is anger normal? or am I a freak?

Anger is a totaly normal and is a human emotion. Its right that you feel this way after what you have endured. And of course you want revenge. But anger has its best use when channeled. So use this emotion effectivly. Wacking him upside the head with a frying pan is not the best way to use anger. I find that channeling anger into thought is the best way of using it. If you think back to what he has done to you and how he used you. Use the anger to destroy any feelings you have for him. Feelings of revenge are also normal. But shreding his fave suit and trousers is a waste of time. He can just get another. I find the best way to get revenge is to show him that you dont need him. He expects to step over you in the gutter. Dont allow him this luxuary. Change yr hair. Yr cloathes and look and be happy. There is nothing more disconcerting than this. If anything raged my ex more than anything was seeing the new me. How well I looked and happy I looked. I may have been falling apart inside but I didnt look like it. So take a leaf. Change. C

Hi everyone,
I do agree with flick5, the anger is normal, ive gone to bed at night with so much rage inside me for this man, who ive been with for twenty eight years and had three children to, he as made me hate him so much, the things he said and done to me are so hurtful, this is the second time he as done it to me in our marriage, forgive him last time, but this time its over.

So the best thing for me is to move on like he has and as others have said, pick yourself up, show them, that you can carry on and you dont care anymore what they are doing, my ex told me "I couldn't do anything on my own" so the best revenge for me is to show him, I can carry on without him, I dont need him anymore, Im free agan, I can do what I want, when I want, and that is the best revenge of all. Take care and be kind to yourself:)

Marshy_ wrote:

"I find that channeling anger into thought is the best way of using it. If you think back to what he has done to you and how he used you. Use the anger to destroy any feelings you have for him."


This is exactly what my mother told me when I rang her in floods of tears, six months after the event, because of the way my new man walked away. I'm not there yet, I can't be angry with him because I am still in love with him.


"I find the best way to get revenge is to show him that you dont need him... Change yr hair. Yr cloathes and look and be happy. There is nothing more disconcerting than this. If anything raged my ex more than anything was seeing the new me. How well I looked and happy I looked. I may have been falling apart inside but I didnt look like it. So take a leaf. Change."


- this part I can do - thanks for the reminder:)
xx