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hello,
I just joined up. I have found out that my hubby of 38 years is having yet another affair and I have forgiven him so many times before but now at my time of life ( a pensioner) I have had enough ! he is blatant about it. We have 2 grownup kids in their 30's who support me entirely as they know him. he once got charged with sexual assault as he had interfered with young women he was a supervisor of and I went to court to back him up and they attended court aged 15 and 16.
He has admitted to the latest affair to our son and said don't tell your Mum as if as a man my son will "understand" which my son absolutely does not and is on my side.
My son tells me stay calm and do what Ivana Trump did "Don't get mad get it all" we have a holiday home abroad which we can sell and my son says sell it and put the money into a joint account with himself and my daughter.
That's what I want to do... Advice welcome and thanks for reading.

Hi. I think your son is right. But I doubt that you could actualy do this as I suspect that you jointly own it. But if its in yr name, go ahead. That will teach him. Ivana was dead right. C

Thanks for taking the time to reply.
We own the beach villa jointly but I have always dealt with the family finances, bills etc. He knows nothing and would not know the number of our bank account so when the sale goes through I hope to just pop in the number of my kids account.
Here's hoping it goes without a hitch !

I am sorry to be boring, but Marshy's advice is not good as far as selling the overseas property is concerned.

When it comes to working out a financial settlement, both of you will be asked to make full disclosure of assets and liabilities.

Hiding the proceeds of the sale in your children's bank accounts and not disclosing them could land you with serious problems if this fact should come out at some future date. You could be taken to Court and, if the court found in your husband's favour, you could find that you had to pay not only your own legal costs (and going to Court is never cheap) but those of your husband as well. It's probably not worth the risk.

Sorry to be the bearer of unwelcome news, but it is better that you know now. Then you can decide what to do, knowing the risk.

Yes

I had a feeling it was not as easy as that but blackmail is a powerful tool and if I can get him to agree to a 4 way split of the profits between him, our 2 grownup kids and me I think that is fair.

Thanks for pulling me down to earth !

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