my story

i know way to soon at the minute but just feel so damn lonely. have got a really supportive family and lots of friends who haven't tired of listening yet.

Told me on Wednesday that he is now seeing someone else, left the beginning of November, didn't let the grass grow did he. Don't beleive him and think she was probably on the scene giving the right attention way before but he denys this.

Telling my five year old tonight and really struggling thinking about the best thing to say, he knows his dad has been out of the house a lot and we haven't been doing any thing as a family so he obviously has an idea but not actually sat him down yet. Want to do the best for him, but going to find it really hard not too say daddy has decided, daddy is doing, daddy is..... Know I can't but I hate him so much!

Hi Catiz

It is difficult to trust again, but not all men are like that, as all women are not like my stbx.

I'm 39 with to young children (6 years and 2 years), my stbx walked out of the family nearly 12 months ago saying she had persnal problems that she needed to work out before she could move on with her life or our marriage. Within 2 weeks of moving out she had put herself on the pill (she had never used before) and started to boast of a millionaire boy friend who was spending £500 a night for their hotel rooms (personal problems?)

It was not long before i found out that she had been unfaithful sometime before she left with a work colleague, she wanted to remain friends - no chance of that happening.

My stbx pays nothing towards the morgage (saying she afford it) but mananges to buy designer clothes and has had 4 holidays in the last 12 months. I struggle to maintain the family home and have very left to spend on or spoil the children.

As for all of her money and materialistic way of life, my 6 year old does not like going to see his mum (which i do encourage, she is his mum) and i have a constant battle at weekends to talk him round.

Some men are trust worthy, in fact you may find most are but the few morons that are not give the rest of us a bad name.

Be patient, God repays debts but not with money, what goes around comes around.

Ant X

Thanx Ant - do not understand how any mother can go away on holiday without her children - did she leave your two year old behind.

I am really struggling with th thought of my stbx ever asking to take the children away for more than two days - it will kill me - and of course wud never think of asking this in return as that wud be hypocritical!

So I guess that will come in time, or else the children will have a life without holidays, never liked leaving them with people when we were married to go away for weekends but have to do it now for him. P*****s me off that I am in this situation with no bloody choice but to get on with it!!!