my story

Hi I am a 38 yr old nearly divorced lady,glad to be getting rid of the husband i have been married to for 16yrs,who has gone off with a 29 yr old slapper,who thinks she has hit the big time as he has a brilliant job and travels the world.I should do well out of the child maintenance but the whole process is leaving me with shattered nerves and an inability to trust.

Hi Scan. I am not surprised you feel this way. But you have to look at it this way. Its his loss and you are well rid of him. He is usless and weak. Take the time. Get over him and in time you will be fine. Many on this site are in the same boat as you and me. The best form of revenge is to leave them together. They deserve each other. Best ones C

Hi Scan welcome to wiki

I want to say snap, well almost

My 40 year old husband left when i discovered his affair with an 18 year old. I'm not divorced yet, it only happened 4 months ago but i will be happy to be rid of him.

You've come through the worst part, the initial shock and pain, you should be so proud of yourself for that.

Trusting again is difficult, i'm seeing someone at present and i have to constantly remind myself that he is not my stbx, he is a totaly different person who deserves my trust.

Give yourself time, now is the time to concentrate on your life and what you want.

Take care

Dawn x

How do you find time to meet someone new, where did you meet him. feel like I'll be alone forever, must admit do find it hard giving up the kids for overnights but maybe that is the only way to rebuild my life.

Hallo and welcome

Yes, my ex cleared off with someone younger "we're so compatible" but still wants us to be friends. Yeah, right!

He doesn't understand why both our teenage sons don't want to spend much time with him (um, they're embarrassed!).

I went through a lot of grief and rage and now feel quite indifferent about him - not that I give him much thought as I am busy with my own life.

And another one - husband started affair with subordinate at work just before his 40th!

Wonders why our daughter isn't interested in him - she goes through spells where she doesn't want to see him anymore. When he moved out he wouldn't see her now she says she won't see him at times.

This was 7 months ago I found out - we get a Nisi next week. I was so unbelievably hurt and upset and angry - the feeling do get a little easier to bear.

Meeting someone else - an old friend showed some interest soon after my husband left but it was way to soon for me = I feel now maybe I would be able to cope but couldn't back then. And now I get no time away from my daughter so will probably never get the chance...?

My advice would be talk - talk as much as you can. Sadly people lose interest after a while so talk here, or see a counsellor, or anywhere you can - but get it all out!

Take care x

Hi catliz

My son is 14 so i am able to leave him for a few hours at a time and he spends nights away with his dad and at his friends.

I met my new man through mutual friends, i wasn't looking for a relationship but it just kinda happened. We went out as friends at first but it soon became obvious there was something between us.

If you find it hard to let the kids stay away from home for the night, how about having someone come to your home to look after them and stay the night?

Starting a new relationship is difficult, you have to make sure you're doing it for the right reasons, not because your trying to regain something you've lost.

Dawn x