I'M new

Hello people,

Have been looking for chat sites to join with sincere and cultivated conversation ( yeah I know but I live in hope ) feeling a bit lost and only occasionally weepy...miss my future expectations more than I miss him, but mostly just wanting to stomp around and jab my finger...other days I am really good and whole new vistas are opening in front of me, so much amazing stuff coming my way but I'M tired of this surprising hurt out of nowhere and it would be nice to be safe and chat. Anyone need a mate?

Introduction ? in early 40's, doing my Masters, 4 cats, quite sweet and ready to live again.

Welcome

You'll find lots of friends and support on here.

You don't say how long it is since you split but it sounds like you are already finding some good stuff in your life. Don't think of this as the end of your life, but as the beginning of a new chapter. There's nothing wrong with stomping as long as that's not all you do. You say that there are new vistas opening so go with them, explore your new options.

The hurt won't go away for a while but it will get easier and less frequent until one day it won't be there any more.

Best wishes for your new life,
Annie

Hi Foodle

Welcome! Sorry about your situation but it honestly does get better! There is no magic wand but starting new things so you can move on is the way to go! You will find you get more good days if you seize the opportunities that come your way!

The chat on here is friendly and safe so give it a try!

All the best

Steve

Hallo and welcome



You are on the way, you will get there.

Hi there


you sound like you are at a similar stage in all this to me so
feel free to pm if you'd like a chat - I am 41 separated since June last year - Nisi next week. One child three chickens - dog died just after husband left when I discovered his affairs.

Like you I miss the life I thought I was going to have although I don't think I could ever take him back after his treatment of me and our child.

Good luck; be cheerful and strive to be happy.

H x

Hello again

thanks for making me feel welcome...am determined to feel this is an opportunity to go in a direction that is gonna be better than where we were heading, to be honest him not living here is kind of nice but even though its been 12 weeks it still seems like i will wake up and touch his shoulder and say "guess what i have just had the most realistic and weird dream about us splitting up" - it worked for Bobby Ewing (showing my age) Having said that if he came home ( hubby not Bobby Ewing obviously) I think I would be down about it, I will be OK, it's just not what I expected and I wish I had known before it happened.
Anyway thanks for your encouragement.