Another divorcee to join the party...

Hi guys
I've been scanning the forums and found them incredibly useful. Its so helpful to find so many kindred spirits with the same feelings and issues. The advice so far has been great. I am grateful to all that have helped so far.

I've been married for 9 years (together for 13 yrs) and finally it all came to a head last April when we decided we could no longer live with eachother.

Everything was amicable until recently, but I am constantly hearing and seeing things my ex is doing that scares me, and I have lost all trust in her handling this in an amicable way.

I have a boy of four years who is an angel - but starting to play up at nursery - I am concerned he is being affected by the split. And a 3 month old who is too young to know any different.

I stayed in the marital home for 9 months just so that I could be there to support her with the birth of our son, and have been paying everything so she could take 6 months off work to be with our newborn.

Anyways thats me in a nutshell

Thanks for listening!

Revvin

Hi Rewin

Welcome!

I do hope you and the ex can keep things amicable, but if your experience is anything like mine and a lot of the folk on here you will be lucky!!

Still this is a great place to get information, let off steam, and have a bit of a laugh

All the best

Steve

Hi Rewin and welcome to wiki

I hope that you and your wife will be able to keep things friendly, my stbx and i are trying to also but i have an awful feeling that it won't last.

With regards to your son i wouldn't worry too much about it. He's still very young and it may be just a phase he is going through or a reaction to his new brother and nothing to do with the split at all. As long as he knows that daddy's still there when he needs him he will soon get used to the idea.

Dawn

Thanks guys - i appreciate the comments.

Dawn: Thanks for the comments re: my son. I know that kids are so good at picking things up and we are both so conscious of our behaviour in front of him. I hope he's ok, hes such a great kid.

Hallo Rewin and welcome

Your 4 year old may be playing up for all kinds of reasons. If you are concerned, I suggest you talk things over with the staff and see what he's doing and whether they think its something to worry about or related to something at nursery.

Hi Rewin,

You found the right place to get lots of support and practical advice.

My divorce is amicable so far, but there have been a few scary moments when he has tried to un-nerve me and those times have made me wobble a bit. Support from wiki peeps has kept me going though.

Its not easy when you feel like you have to tread on eggshells to keep someone feeling reasonable, so keep in touch and stay strong. Only you can read her behaviour and deal with your situation accordingly.

You take care,

Debs

Thanks again peeps. Its good to know theres some support out there. Before the Internet this kinda thing must have been so difficult and lonely.