Hello

I have been a member since May 2008 and I thought it was about time to say Hello...

I am a divorcee since September 2008, I divorced by ex on the grounds for unreasonable behaviour and it has been a roller coaster ride every since...

I cannot believe how many divorcee's on here, have gone through the same heartache as me..

I lost my little doggy last year, 2008 was not a good year at all..

Hello:)
I'm still new to this and just don't know why some men have no respect for someone they loved enough to marry.
It's good to know you came out the other side a strong person, I can't see that far ahead just yet but hope I will look back on the last 4 years as a learning curve!
You are absolutely right about gut instinct, it's seldom wrong. I just have to learn to use my head rather than my heart...any tips?
Take care x

Hallo Green Dancer

What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, so they say. I am in a much healthier emotional state now than 7 months ago when my ex moved out.

We had been together 31 years and our marriage had ground to a halt. I realised this too late, and stuck with it for the sake of our children and because ex refused to move out and I couldn't leave the children. Ex only realised how dire things were when he met someone else (typical!) I had thought I would be relieved when he went but I was overwhelmed first with grief - how much crying can one person do? Never mind cry me a river, I got through an ocean! Then I was really angry. Now I feel indifferent which is much calmer.

I have always tried to be civil with ex. He hasn't played games, he's just been living on "Planet Loved-up" and been unable to see that not everyone is thrilled that he's found someone else.

I too found it really awful that so many people are suffering this pain. I don't know why it is so difficult to divorce. You shouldn't need to prove that the marriage has broken down, if it has.

I think I agree with Humphrey Bogart, that its easy to get married and hard to get divorced whereas it should be hard to get married and easy to get divorced!

Sorry to hear that, hopefully it will get better soon...
If you ever need to talk, then just pm me....