new here, hi

Hi. wow, this is a club I never thought I'd be a part of. . .was married for 23 years, as a stay-at-home mom of 2 daughters, now grown. My husband's use of alcohol and how it changed him played a role in my decision to leave. I found this site through numerous internet searches - just need to know I am not alone in all I am feeling. Although it was my choice to leave, I am troubled by thinking that our marriage wasn't enough for him to get a grip on his drinking. How he chose the alcohol over "us". How my life had been turned up-side-down yet he appears to have more than moved on. It's been four months since I made my announcement, I need to let go and am hopeful I will learn how from this site.

Hi there

Welcome to Wiki...I am sorry you need us, but glad you found us .

Have a good rummage in the forum and library..there will be tons there to help you either legally or emotionally. And when you need to take your mind of it, rant away, or just have a giggle, there are the chat rooms

Amanda

HI 29Pearls

Welcome to wiki.

Dont think any of us thought we would be be here, but I for one am very glad that I found wiki - the support, help, advice, legal information is second to none.

My ex also chose alcohol over us - its hard to accept that, but my veiw is he made his choice, and I had run out of fight trying to save a marraige that was destined to fail. I also think that while they drink, they arent capable of making a rational, reasoned decsion.

If you want a chat, why not pop into the chat room, you will be made very welcome - its not all doom and gloom in there. Or feel free to send me a private message anytime.

Take Care

Ruby

Hi there

I second what Ruby says - people who have alcohol problems find it difficult to make the sorts of decisions the rest of us take for granted.

I hope you find the support you need here - there are a great many good peeps on this site always willing to listen.

Also, to say, when my stbx first left me, I gained alot of understanding from Al Anon - which is a support group for families of people with alcohol problems. It may be worth your while contacting them. Even if you decide you are not interested in attending any meetings they have an awful lot of literature which I found very useful.

Best wishes