The start of a journey !

I am just about to start the divorce procedure myself, my ex wants no solicitor involvement, he believes they are out to 'screw him over' and lengthen the process. I am happy to comprimise and try to do this myself, after all if we CAN make the decisions, then great, but WOW, what a scary thought ! Where do I start !!! I have looked at lots of leaflets so far, there seems to be loads ! I am going for Adultery, he had a thing with someone at work, 6 yrs ago, and then after taking him back, strangely enough, that rekindled, so although I dont have details of the 'adultery' I have an admission of feelings, and now we have saeperated, they are moving in together. We had 2 children together, and we seem to be able to agree on some of the aspects of the divorce already. Any advice would be very greatfully received !!!! Emotionally I am doing ok, its just so daunting when you first look at the forms, and financials. I don't really want to have to show him all my bank statements if we can come to an agreement, is that possible ? So many questions !!

You need evidence of adultery I think and it would need to be current. If you don't petition for divorce within 6 months of adultery being committed the law assumes you are OK with it.

But you could use him moving out as an example of unreasonable behaviour - really you just need to show the marriage has broken down.

It seems to be the best way if you and your stbx can agree about things, not to involve solicitors as it saves legal costs and prevents antagonistic behaviours.

I can't advise on the nitty gritty, but you will find plenty of info here and your local library should also have books on DIY divorce etc.

You sound like you have been living in a relationship that hasnt worked for a long time on both sides. But you have children. This is not as easy as just both agreeing your relationship no longer works. You or he could easily get short changed. To get a realistic perspective post your financial details - there is a list of what you need to post under financial threads

Dont agree to any settlement or arrangement just to get out - whilst you both may feel the relationship is at an end - that doesnt mean the responsibilities are so please be careful
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