so confused, so much to think about, need help!

hi, im Chelle.
Hi to everyone out there, i'm guessing that we are basically all in the same boat, so commiserations or congratulations to you all, whichever you feel is most appropriate.
I am happy that my lying cheating husband has left, (with his best friends wife), but finding the whole divorce situation very stressful and difficult. We had been married 15 years, together 18, nearly half my life. Have two children aged 13 and 10 who are coping as well as children do, they have good and bad days but mainly they have been brilliant.
I need loads of advice as i never seem to be able to get a straight answer out of sol and the mediator we have been allocated was friends sol in her divorce and she reckons he was useless.
really scared about losing FMH.
any help or advice would be gladly received.
hope everyone is well and managing to cope with the lovely wintry weather.
We live near the north york moors and we love it when it snows.
Chelle

Hi Chelle. Spoke to you in chat earlier. Welcome.

Firt of all - When you divorce the needs of the children & their main carer (you) have to be sorted out & approved by the judge before anything else goes forward.

Their needs will need to be met until the end of their education,
Or until they are 18 and no longer classed as dependent.

Look in the forums about finances & children & property.
I am sure there is a thing called a mesher order that will allow you to stay in your home with the children.

You should also look at registering your interest in the marital home at the land registery to protect your rights to your home.
Someone will know how to go about this I am sure.

Dont forget to use this site and your local CAB to get free advice and keep sols use to a minimum.

hi Mezzie,

thanks for your advice. I asked my solicitor about a mesher order, and she told me that she didnt think that our local courts would give me one. She said that the judges that she had been in front of lately were going off of mesher orders in favour of a Clean Break. I desperately wanted a mesher order as when my grandmother who is now 90 dies (sounds callous i know) i will inherit a sum that would enable me to buy him out. youngest child is 10 and in all probability Nanna will go before Emma turns 18.
You might think thats hard faced of me but it is one of the few options that i have.

have you heard anything about mesher orders becoming less 'fashionable' as my solicitor put it?

By the way the site is great. I've gone from feeling totally alone, to feeling that i am at least not isolated. That there is a big wide world out there beyond solicitors and mediators.

Cheers

Chelle

ps didnt mean to seem ignorant in the chat room earlier, had a techy problem that Rosie was talking me thru, didnt mean to ignore anyone or monopolise Rosie!