my partner left me

hello, im new to this site,but i just wanted exspress how im feeling,ive been on my own for three months now,im still heart broken with my fiance leaving me!i was 36 when we met he was 24,we had been together for 10years,i had 2children wich have left home now,he dident have any and told me he wasent botherd and loved me and dident want to bring children into this world,he never mentioned children in the 10yrs we were together,he was loving loyal but a lovable rouge!then one morning just before xmas he got up and told me he dident love me anymore and he left,5days later i found out he was dating his sisters friend,he contacted me on the third week of leaveing came txting me wanting to see me ,i said no untill i gave in a let him come round,he told me he misses me and us and its not the same with his new girlfriend and was realy upset,he went away that weekend to sort his head out,he came back and chose her,i was gobsmacked,2wks later he got engaged now shes 2months pregnant,i am devistated as thats what i wanted from him but we couldent have,he has ignored me since and wont speak to me, this girl is younger than me and says she couldent take the pill and it just happend, i think she done it on perpose to keep him as she has been on her own with two children from a previouse relation ship for a while now,my ex is a very emotional person and would fall in love easily,when he went all our friends went with him as they were mainly his, but what i dont understand is his mum and sister cared more about her feelings than mine when he was having this break to sort his head out,now im left to rebuild friendships im so on my own and its been hard ive had to get over this bymyself,but he still has the same life but with a different person in it so he never got a chance to grieve like me,we were truly in love,i just think he grew up and realized he wanted a family or it was drumed into him with this new girlfriend!has any one else been in this situation,how did you cope and i know i have to move on and im getting there,im 44 now and i just feel ive wasted 10 years,he had nothing when he met me not even a job,passport birthcert or driving licence,now he has it all.

Hi Duchess

Welcome to Wiki

What has happened to you is unfortunately all to common, and is very painful. My stbx left me for a relationship with a guy who has no children, house or car, but who made her laugh.

We had been married for over 18 years when I found about her affair 18 months ago. Since then I have been on a rollercoaster ride, and am still on it in some ways but it is levelling out and the ups and downs are less frequent and not as steep!

I have found the best way to move on is to do new things, try and get out and meet new people, do an evening class, join a club, do something you have always wanted to do.

If you need support you will get lots here, ask questions, have a rant, try the chat room.

All the best

Steve

Sadly he has moved on emotionally, probably a while before he told you.

I imagine his sister is more bothered about his new gf because its her friend - and she sees that as they are together they are going to be around for the future.

You say most of your friends were his friends. Well, if they don't want to stay in touch with you, that's their choice. But you can keep your friends and make new ones.

The key is to do something. By all means cry your eyes out and grieve over your lost relationship. But then sort out the rest of your life.

Good luck.

you must be feeling absolutely dreadful, but time is a great healer. you say you were both very much in love, try and remember the good times, although it is hard, maybe he did leave you because he felt the need to have a family, maybe his family drilled into him that he should have a family. one day he may tell you, but until then, look after yourself, be kind to yourself, have lots of hot baths, try not to feel bitter and sad, remember the good times and it will get easier, it really will.