New to this, never been thru it bfore

Well this is my second post.

I was told three weeks ago that my marriage was over. My STBX wife told me she didnt love me, wanted to seperate and moved out of the MH in three days to move in wih her parents.

A bit of history - I'm living in the south of England, but am originally from South Wales. Moved down here to be with wife kids (3 and 1) and stepdaughter (12) last year, just over a year later she has told me its over. I have tried talking to her and changing her mind, but it's all over - the sooner i realise this the better! She is definite about the whole thing! SHe will not be persuaded!

I've seen my little two for about 3 to 5 days in the last 21. At the moment loads of things are going through my head. She is not having an affair - at least thats what she says, not that it matters now anyway! But i will be seeing less of my kids now than i want or think i deserved to, they are my life at the moment, having very few friends in the area other than work colleagues and her family.

Having a few issues with getting thru this, as she has cut me dead. Although she now wants me out of the house so she can move back in! Do i move out or stick to my guns......i just dont know at the moment!

I'm so sorry to hear this has happened. It is such a sad thing to have happened especially when there are children involved. I cannot advise you but i know from reading previous posts that many men have been advised not to move out of MH until a Separation Agreement is reached. However, you do run the risk of your wife badmouthing you of emotionally blackmailing you - ie you obviously don't care much for the children because you won't move out so that they can move back in etc.It is a terrible time because it feels as if the person breaking the marriage holds all the cards. Once this person has decided to leave, they do tend to cut you dead and become emotionally cold either because they have moved on or because they need to cut themselves off from the terrible pain they are causing another human being. Hopefully someone will be along soon to advise. Take care, Katie