Hi, I need some help

On Monday my husband told me he was leaving me.....

Today I find out it is for my boss(female).

Not only has he messed up my homelife, he has messed up my worklife too and I dont know where to start!!

Please help

Aquarius x

Firstly Welcome pull up a chair have a cuppa and take it easy.

We are all in the same boat here and understand where your at at this very moment, some of us have passed this initial shock and got over it or are not far off getting over it it may well get worse before it gets eases off. But it will further down the line.

Firstly make sure that what youve learnt is true and not just rumour, I think I would see any directors if your boss is just a member of staff go to the directors if need be. Tell them the situation and that it would lead to ill feeling between you and you dept head, you dont want to loose your job and therefore would like it to be noted that you fear it could lead to that.

What ever you do do NOT leave the martial home and do not listen to any threats that he gives with legal help if you get it they will tell you what he can do and cant. You cannot stop him coming in the house of course untill such time as it has been decided by a yourselves what and + share out of all assets would be. if you have children you may be entitled to slightly bigger share.

If you do go on the road to Divorce then get your free 30 mins with a soliciter to talk it over and check to see if yourr entitlend to legal aid.

Others will be along to help you further as you progress just keep on popping in and asking what you need... even come into the chat room you can get advice there and chat 1 to 1 id you want to do it private

Be Well

T Max

T Max.... yes it's definately true, I heard it from the horses mouth, and he didn't deny it either.

I'm not leaving the marital home, he has already moved his stuff out and into hers, but he is in the process of renting a property so he can take our 2 boys over night.

I have already spoke to the senior managers at work reguarding a departmental change with immediate affect, because of my supervisors lack of honesty.

I am on leave for a week, and have been given a further weeks compassionate, but how do I face going back after that?

I CANT leave my job, as I need it to pay to feed my children, we have agreed that he will be paying the mortgage to keep the roof over the boy's head's so that is one thing I dont have to worry about, but because of that I don't qualify for legal help.

Is it too soon to be thinking about divorce?

Hi. Sorry you find yourself here but you are in the right place for support.
Only you know if divorce is now the only option based on his adultery.
Don't rush the process, give yourself time to adjust to each stage & remember your children are the priority in all this.
You will have sadness & anger in droves. Cry when you need to but hold your head up high - you have done nothing wrong.

Hi and Welcome to Wiki

I am sorry you have to go through this. It must be very hard. It is good that at work they are being supportive and you are right, you should not have to quit or lose ur job because of ur boss.

and i agree with taking ur time to make any major decisions. Everyone emotions are running high at the minute so rushed decision are definitely not good.

What u need to do now is to make sure that you and your kids are protected - financially or otherwise.

It is a dark hard time, but it does get better. Also Wiki offers a wealth of support and information.

Good luck
Claudette

The other problem I face...... he wants the children to meet her already...... I don't think the children are ready for that.... I'm certainly not ready for that either.

Although it is very quick I feel I have to start the process rolling as I know 6 months ago, he said to me about having another baby......and I also know that she is desperate for another baby, and although it's early days still, I can see her getting pregnant by the end of the year.

This is why I need to make sure my children are secure financially.