Where to go from here?

Hi! I'm a 32 year old mother of 4 and have recently split from my husband. We are still living together because of children, money etc but in seperate rooms. I ended the relationship as I don't love him anymore. He has in the past been quite cruel mentally and I didn't want to live my life being miserable in a love-less relationship! The problem is that I don't know how long I can live with him for? I could barely put up with him before all this but now I feel no need to 'bite my tongue' and put up with him. I am concerned for my children and the tension in the house. Only the eldest knows what has happened. I do not argue in front of them but unfortunately my husband keeps making digs at me in front of them and it will eventually have an effect. If we leave, we lose our home and I don't know what would happen to us? He won't leave as he loves his children too much and can't afford to may the mortgate and rent for himself. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Hi aunty

Welcome to Wiki!. It is an awful situation to be in. Me and my ex did not have kids, but we lived together for 8 months after separation. I pretty much kept to my bedroom and out of his way and yes I had to bite my tongue loads of times!!!

Wiki offers loads of support and information so have a look around. There is also a legal surgery in one of the chatrooms (link on the homepage)

Good luck
Claudette

Hi auntyems

Welcome to wikivorce. I have no real advice for you since I didn't remain in the MH in my first marriage - I left with the children. Obviously your situation is not a healthy one for your children, but oyu know this already.

There are many on here who share your experience (I did stay in the MH with my second husband for 13 mths, which was hell, but with no chldren) and may have some suggestions to share.

The current economic climate certainly limits choices - but there is always a solution of sorts. Don't give up hope, often things don't look like attractive options to begin with - but, if it moves your situation forward, anything is worth considering.

For what it's worth, in my 2nd situation, the hardest part was the 'limbo' feeling. Very depressing. Keep working on a way forward... and try to keep your spirits up. Although chidren in the equation bring an added stress, they also provide a positive distraction.

Good luck

Shezi