Help!!!

New to this & seeking advice .... husband & I not had good marriage for many years (been together 19 years)
Adopted 3 kids 12 years ago. In our own ways we have been staying together for sake of the kids, but with hindsight (wonderful thing!) it was a mistake.
Now at point where I need to get out of this situation, for my own good & for the kids who are affected by the atmosphere at home etc. Husband refusing to consider putting our house on the market, in no hurry to buy me out & I'm at breaking point.
Don't know where I stand, what my rights are. I only work part-time, am self employed & couldn't afford to set up a new home for me & the 2 remaining kids at home I feel trapped.
Anyone else been here? What did you do?

Sorry to hear about your situation. It can't be easy not knowing what to do or where to turn. Anyway, welcome to the site. There are many people who will be able to give you the answers that you need. You've come to the right place. We all support each other and help out where we can. We all have good supplies of tissues and a hug when you need them. Pop into chat when you feel you can, there may be someone in there that can help. If not the forum's are the place to visit and post.
Best wishes,
CK

Hi Je

Welcome to Wiki. I know it all seems daunting but you will find friendship, support and advice here

In order to get specific advice you should post up more detail of the following:

Your respective ages;

The number of children you have and their ages;

How many nights the children spend with each parent;

The length of your marriage and any period of pre marriage cohabitation;

Your respective incomes;

Your respective outgoings;

Your assets - both soley held and joint;

Your liabilities.

I know what you mean about the atmosphere at home. It is very difficult living in the same house when the situation is like that. Does your husband not feel the same? Unless there is a court order there is nothing to force one side to leave.

With me, my wife had an affair and decided the marriage was over and didn't want to try to make it work. I told her I wasn't prepared to move out as I worked from home, so she moved out and rented a place and the children initially stayed with me and now spend their time pretty much equally with us both. If this is not an option for you at the moment. In the meantime why don't you look at the benefits agency web site to see if you would be entitled to any benefits.

By posting the more detailed information you can get practical advice on your options.

All the best

S