love of my life gone

I am sorry to hear your story. Take it from me, things will get better.

I threw my DH out after his second affair 15 months ago after 20 years of marriage. I am now 50 and he 53. His new love interest is a German woman aged 31 who he moved in with immediately.(He has a daughter from a previous marriage the same age)!

Its not nice being alone at 50 although I am enjoying finding me again. I am certainly not in any hurry to be involved with anybody else. He has left me in a mess with regards to the MH and finances but emotionally I am truly over him.

Its a long and rocky road thats for sure but it will get better I promise. Take baby steps and focus on what you want for your future and don't be pressured to make any decisions until you are ready.......ALL OF YOU DESERVE BETTER!!

I am sending hugs and strength to you all xx

Hallo and welcome

You will soon see that you are far from alone in your situation.
Your wife has probably been thinking and sorting out the future for some time, whilst you are still in the shock phase of things.

Things will get better, but it will take time.

I myself am 52 nearly 53 and my husband, who is a year older, left me and our two sons, then 16 and 14 for a younger woman and her two younger children. We had been together for 31 years, so most of my life!

It was very difficult, even though we had problems, to adjust to life without him. I am currently in counselling and on anti-depressants and have a supportive network of friends and my brilliant Mum to help me. I am mainly OK but I feel shaky and panicky, or cry a lot, or feel tremendous rage and "it's so unfair!" about things.

None of us knows what the future holds - and that can be scary - but we have to hope and believe that we can cope with whatever happens.

Keep posting!