Anyone out there in my shoes?

Hi - I am in the process of splitting with my husband.
We are currently at loggerheads as to who should remain in the MH.
He feels that I should leave as I intiated the split and had a relationship outside the marriage that he didn't approve of (this ended more than 6 months ago). The underlying reason, in my view, is that for at least the last five years our relationship had broken down on many different levels.
I feel that he should leave as I am the primary carer for our 3 children (18, 14 & 9) and would like them to experience the least amount of upheaval possible.
I can just about afford to pay the whole of the mortgage on the MH, and there is more than enough cash available for him to be able to afford a decent home in the local area, especially as he is on a very good salary - double mine.
He also feels that he does not want to be seen as leaving the children as he has done nothing wrong (in his eyes). I hear what he is saying but will do my utmost to ensure that they have a good relationship with him and can see him whenever they want to. I have never, and will never, 'badmouth' him to them.
Is there anyone out there in a similar position to me - or has come out the other end ok?!
It would be great to hear your experiences.

Can you suggest shared residency?

Maybe a mediator could help you both come to a decision.

I'm in a similar type of position as you. Although from the other side. My wife has moved out with our kids (12 step-D, 3 son, 1 Daughter). She is pushing for me to move out so the kids can be back in there bedrooms. I feel i'm being held to ransom and have to move out for them, even tho we have no equity in the property and would probably be better off selling it.

She won't move back in whilst i'm in the house, I'm unsure why to be honest, i've offered seperate bedrooms....keep going back to the idea she may be having an affair....who knows, doesn't make alot of difference now eh!

Anyway, i may push for mediation to get something sorted legally so she can't get any loans against the house etc....

That's what i'd suggest to you..