New to this site Hi all. xx

Hi All

I have never done anything like this before but it cant make my situation any worse!!!!

My husband of 3 years (living together for 3 years previous) left me 8 months pregnant 2 years ago after having an affiar with the admin girl!!!

We were in the middle of having an extension on the house and until now it has not been completed so the house was unable to go on the market. It has now been valued and is ready to sell.

My husband moves into his new house today which he has brought with his girlfriend.

He is now areguing about how to split the equity in our house when it sells. I went to see a solicitor last year and they advised me that because of the difference in wages that he earns to me that it would be fair to ask for 75% as i have to start again on my own. He thinks this is unfair as he has paid the mortgage soley for 18 months as i was on maternity leave. I have paid all the bills and not received maintenance from him as he was paying the mortgage. I need the equity to start again with our son, i have started back at work but cant afford a big mortgage on my own. He has been given the deposit from his parents so only needs this money to spend on himself.

I have also had to contact CSA about the maintenance payments as he doesnt want to pay the correct amount of that either.

I will be so glad to get him out of my life how did i ever love him!!!!!!!

Hi welcome to wiki,

Not a place you really want to be, but a place to get good advice and support.

If you would like advice as to what the likely outcome of a financial case on the dissolution of a marriage is going to be you need to post the following information:

Your respective ages;

The number of children you have and their ages;

How many nights the children spend with each parent;

The length of your marriage and any period of pre marriage cohabitation;

Your respective incomes;

Your respective outgoings;

Your assets - both soley held and joint;
Your liabilities.

Dont forget to include his 'new home' as you are still married that will become part of the marital pot, assets and used in any settlement figures.

AS far as the mortgage is concerned, you will not have to pay back the mortgage payments. I do not know why your solicitor advised you that you would have to account for the mortgage payments he has made. (who are they acting for?? you or him?) Until a court order is drawn up nothing can be decided. It is very very unlikely that this will be the case. Dont let it happen, refuse. Or even better, employ a more competent solicitor.

If you answer the questions above someone will have a look for you, and give you an idea of what the outcome may be.

good luck
zara

Thank you for your help Zara.

I dont think i have explained very well about the mortgage payments. My solicitor didnt say i needed to pay him back she said i was entitled to 75% of the equity but my husband wants to give me 60% because he has paid more mortgage payments than me.

Where do i need to put the data you suggested i put. On this thread or a new one?

Many thanks
Emma

This thread will be fine.

zara

Your respective ages;
H 29
W 27

The number of children you have and their ages;
1 child aged 1

How many nights the children spend with each parent;
W 6/7
H supposed to be one but doesnt have him every week

The length of your marriage and any period of pre marriage cohabitation;
3 year marriage
3 year pre cohabit

Your respective incomes;
H £2600 nett monthly
W £1070 nett monthly + tax credits + CHB

Your respective outgoings;
H £1200
W £1000

Your assets - both soley held and joint;
H £6000 shares (which were brought from our joint account) + his new property value £125000 brought jointly with new partner
W £500
MH Value £210000 mortgage £110000

Your liabilities.
H car £23000 approx
W Car £5000 approx

Not sure if i have given enough information.