Thanks Zara and Mezzie, and thanks for the good luck NoRegrets,
The beginning of Feb he moved into this new flat, and my Daughter actually went out and spent over £100 on things for him as he was moving some of his stuff from the
marital home to this new place.
She purchased things such as a kettle, toaster etc all the basic stuff cutlery, pots and pans, plates etc.
Last week before she got paid she was skint and had gone over drawn again, I asked her where her money had gone as she had nothing to show for it, normally she buys clothes, make-up etc all the girlie stuff, but last month she bought herself nothing apart from a hair cut for £40. I asked her if he had apid her the money back, she said no as he didn't have it what with paying electric etc, so I said well he should have thought about that before he decided to move into a more expensive flat! and that he had better return the money to her soon.
When he is around my house I will give him some dinner when we have dinner etc, and he has a shower at mine, then when he goes home he complains that he has to sit in the cold as he has not got the money to put on the electric, I feel like saying well unfortunately we all have to pay our bills to keep the heating etc going and to keep a roof over our heads, why should I have to pay for him as well. Should I ban him from my house then that will make my Daughter upset and then we will fall out and she will say that she can't take anymore and that it's doing her head in.
I suppose I should sit down with them both and explain my concerns infront of him and see what he says in return.
He thinks the sun shines out of his wifes bum and she can do no wrong.
He gives her a couple of hundred pounds when she wants it either for a car or whatever. He was not bothered at all that he was still married to her and made excuses for her.
She apparently told him to leave and that she no-longer loved him etc etc, so he went. Now if someone did that to me I'd be a broken person and I'd be livid that the divorce had not actually happened after I'd paid for it.
He is suppose to be starting the divorce.
I've tried saying positive things about him and just explaining how long things may take etc, and I know she takes some things on board and it gives her food for thought as she will then talk to him about it, sometimes he says that everyone is against them, I'm not I just want to make sure that his intentions towards my Daughter are true and honourable.
My Daughter does not see her birth father, but her step dad is active in her life and we do talk about it together. But I feel like it's just me that has to deal with it.
I just hope that as you say Zara it may not last, I can only pray, but I will be there for her no matter what happens. She has started to confide in me again after our arguments about him as I've learnt that I may well push her to him even more and thats the last thing I want, thats why I decided to post on here to see if I can get some info on it all to be able to tell her some facts etc.
Thanks
