Hi there

Hi there

I'm new to this site so thought I'd introduce myself.

I've recently decided to separate from my husband of 3 and a half years. Was a very hard decision but just couldn't go on living a lie any longer. The marriage was never consummated. But we never fought or he never cheated on me/was bad to me so was very hard to actually go through with it.

I'm 26 years old (27 next month). A lot of people may feel I got married too young, and maybe I did, I don't really know but I was in love..

Things are awkward now because we are still living together, we got the house valued and it's not worth anywhere near what we need for it to clear the house. So we've decided to continue living together in the meantime. Not ideal but struggling on.

I guess it's hard to see a light at the end of the tunnel at the minute because I don't see an end to all this because of our situation.

If your marriage hasn't been consummated I think you are able to get an annulment instead of a divorce. This would mean that it would be as if you had never been married.

I thought about that route but not sure if too much time has lapsed for that?

Also don't really want to raise it with him because it's a touchy area..

Thanks for your reply

xo

It depends on whether people think that 3 and a half years is not a reasonable time in which to seek anulment.

I don't wish to pry, but if the non-consumation is the reason your marriage has broken down, you can try to sort that out.

As for marrying too young, who can say? My cousin married just after her 23rd birthday and she's been married for over 35 years now.

Its not really the only reason but a major part of it. Have tried to get him to go to the doctor/counselling but he wouldn't.

I have been to counselling.

To be honest it's just gone on too long and I don't feel we could ever get back to the way we were. I love him, yes, but as friends now, I don't feel for him in a sexual way because its gone on too long.