Hi
I'm 38, been seperated for over 2 years
husband filed for a divorce soon after separation and we havent been able to come to an agreement yet and basically the solicitors fees are crippling me and I dunno which way to go
I am still in the
marital home, we have 3 children, 8,8 and 6 who live with me. I work part time and earn £8500 pa. He earns in excess of £40,000, he works abroad 6 months of the year, when he is in the country he rents accomodation and the children stay with him one night a week.
Up till now he has paid the mortgage on the home and nothing else (approx 600 per month)
The house is worth approx £160,000 and the mortgage on it is £70,000. There is 11 years approximately left to pay
He is proposing that he carries on paying the mortgage till it is paid of or until I am in a position to buy him out and then we will split 70/30. He will pay no maintainance
I took the letter proposing this to my solicitor, with the thought that I just want it to end so i can move on. He then sent me a court consent detailing what this meant
reading through this I just cant accept that this is the answer
I just feel that its not enough. I think its not a bad deal if he was paying maintenance too.
Part of me just wants rid of the hassle and worry and solicitors bills but then the other part of me wants what is fair. He says that his solicitor says its a generous offer, but they have never asked me for any financial details
One option i have thought about it selling the home now and sharing the equity, I cant get a mortgage so I would have to rent with his maintainence paying the rent but then he is well capable of leaving the country for good and I might get nothing from him.
So what I am thinking of proposing is that he pays me a set amount of maintainence (to be arranged). I pay the mortgage out of this, he keeps his stake in the house until either I re-marry or the kids leave school and if he deferrs on the payments he loses his stake in the house.
I just dunno what to do really, what is fair etc
I'm not a greedy person, I just want whats right for me and the kids
Any advice would be welcome:)
