Dont want to spend next 25 years unhappy

Steve. I think you will get totaly shafted. You earn big she earns small. Classic case of poor 55 year old male in 2 years time living in a bedsit. Mate what you should be doing is getting help. Dont throw yr marriage away. I know its not a good place right now. She will probably say the same. Cant you seek help? Counseling? Divorce is great in principle but reality is something else. And the big earners suffer. Ask me how I know. C

I agree with Marshy. Financially your prospects are not good and I would recommend you try and save your marriage if you can.

So I think the only alternative is to bite the bullet and get a divorce. She is against this.

"Your wife is against this". So there is a chance that you could save it. 30 years together is worth saving in my opinion.

Start talking/communicating. It's worth a try. You have everything to lose.

Good luck.

I agree with LadyinBlue in some respects, many respects, but it all depends I suppose on how you feel Steve.

On your death bed will you be happy thinking that you protected your 'wealth' by remaining married to a person you no longer really and truly loved, or will you be on your death bed thinking, okay I lost alot of monetary gains when i divorced my wife, but I lived the rest of my life to the full each and every day and was happier than any amount of money could ever have given me.

I don't think any of us will be counting our money as blessings on our dying day, but on the amount of people we loved and who loved us.

So, there you go Steve. If you feel you can truly love your wife again, go for it, because you will be blessed twice. However, if you feel that you would always hanker on what you may have missed, let her go free because it would be cruel to stay with someone just for monetary gain.

Take time out and think and talk and you never know, you may be brought back together again.

Jo x