The ex is on a power trip?

Hi i'm new to this site and just thought I'd introduce myself.

I'm a male in my mid thirties and have 2 beautiful daughters. My divorce is almost finalised after been seperated from the ex for over 3 years. My oldest daughter lives with my ex and the youngest I have with my partner.

As I said, I separated from the ex over 3 years ago and it was amicable. Nobody else was involved on either side, we just grow apart from each other.

I'm really lucky in the fact that I see my daughter on a regular basis but for some reason the ex doen't like me having any say what so ever in my daughters up bringing. I think I'm a reasonable person and understand the ex is the main carer so she should have final say, but feel I should have
some say.

She has great pleasure in letting me know events have happen after the occasion has happened. An unbelievable example, which I'm still trying to get my head round, was she recently narrowly escaped prison for stealing thousands of pounds from her work. I found out a few days before the hearing. She said that it had nothing to do with me or my daughter even though she could have gone to prison.

Any way, she lies constantly, I reasontly called her mobile to speak to my daughter as I do every week and a guy answerd and put the phone down. When I said to her that if she had a boyfriend i'd like to meet him if he has contact with my daughter, she denied that a bloke answered the phone.

These are just a few examples of what goes on and I know that I've not got much to moan about compared to some people, but it doesn't half get you down sometimes as it feels like a constant battle and all I want is the best for my daughter and to be a big part of her life.

Thanks

Chris

How old is your daughter?

The narrow escape from prison sounds unlikely to me - more like trying to grab your attention. In any case, if she did go to prison, your daughter would be expected to live with you so you certainly would hear about it!

How are things with the daughter that lives with you? Does she see her mother and do you keep her mother informed about things? Do the sisters spend time together?

Is there a reason you need to meet her boyfriend if she has one? What will you be able to tell from meeting him....so you can give your approval or not? Think if I started dating wouldn't feel that my stbx should meet them for any reason, just has to trust my judgement.

Hi
I think your ex is very good at winding you up! That's all.

I dont really think it is any business of yours whether or not she has another man in her life, I am sure that if the boot was on the other foot and she was questioning you about any new relationship you might have, you would not be happy. Let alone your new gf, I am sure that she would take to her heels and run for the hills if it was announced that she would be 'meeting your ex, so that she could be given the once over'!!!

You dont say how old your children are, because that would make a difference to the communication chain.

If both of your daughters are healthy and happy with the arrangements, try and be happy with that.

As No Regret said, do they get to see each other on a regular basis?

Give yourself a break;) Stop worring,again all depending on how old your daughter is, you could give her a mobile to talk to her.

zara