Australian Affair

Hi Ive been married for 20 years 2 children. My wife started talking to someone on the internet who lived in Australia in September 2008, it started with emails then he would phone her every day, she was sometimes on it for 6 hours a day when i was at work. I told her to stop it and she said she had but she did not. This went on till 4 days before Christmas when i said that is it and i left. She told me to come back as she had stop it, then he phoned me up and said he was sorry and that he was only talking. he gave me his word that it was all over. Christmas went well we evern went away. Came back New Years Eve and she changed, we went out with are friends and she did not talk to me or our friends all night. She made a fool of me. Then in Febuary she told me she had met him and had been seeing him for 2 weeks in January. He had come over to see her from Australia. Then he went back and she said that was it over. He came back again and has been staying in a hotel for the past 5 weeks and she has been slipping out to see him every day, and has been staying off work to go and see him. I found out when i followed her and caught them in my car. I even caught them coming out of the hotel. She now wants to be with him and she does not give a toss about me or the kids, she just wants him, and she is doing this infront of me and the children. I no that if i hit him he will call the police and i could loose everything, and that is what they both want...

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then don't give them any provocation.

I know its difficult you are hurt and feel betrayed and made a fool of, but you aren't the only one and sadly won't be the last.

so many spouses seem to go completely bonkers when they meet someone else.

my own husband started behaving like a teenager. He made all the right noises about caring for me and the children but his actions show that he's quite happy to go weeks without seeing them.

Younger son told me he thought his father was "mental" today, and I agreed!

Let her go she's not worth it yes its hard but living a lie is even harder. Take care babe

Onlyone,

Whatever the background, IMHO your X is irresponsible and reckless chasing this "dream". There have been so many peeps, both men and women play similar "games" most resulting in heartache and leaving a trail of devastation. I respect that this is devasting for you, however you will find a lot of support and similar scenarios from the peeps here.

Take care

Elle x

Hi thanks for the reply, first time on here did no what to do. Got arrested last night went to pup next to hotel, next minute she walked out of hotel i walked out to ask her what she was playing at and got hold of her arm and he saw us out of window and called the police. They took me to the station and they charged me with common assault, just for getting hold of her arm.

Unfortunately such conduct can be construed and treated in a manner more suitable to those of ongoing/long term more serious scenarios. It is a sad fact that DV is now being used and abused as an excuse to deal with rare heated situations.

Not easy to do, but better in the long run to avoid discussions/meetings and such like until calm and clearer thinking is an option.

Take care

Elle x