Making Your New Life Great

Hi Everyone, I thought I would just drop in to give an update that will hopefully show the eventual contentment to all those who are in the early despairing times. I have just spent the afternoon getting rather cold in spite of several layers discovering the bird life at a local reservoir. Check out the call of a Water Rail, sounds like a noisy piglet. I have learnt so much, thanks to the generous sharing of knowledge by great enthusiasts, and the joy of winter sunlight on water.

Four and a bit years on from that horrible day and I am so immensely grateful that I have had the chance to discover things that I wouldn''t have otherwise. I wish I hadn''t been forced to go through the mill of anguish to get here; although I can''t help but wonder that if I hadn''t, maybe I wouldn''t appreciate all the small but joyous things that are in my life now to quite the same degree.

It isn''t of course all easy, but I reckon that if I continue on the same upward curve I am now on, this time next year I''ll have reached at least cloud 7.

So good to hear you are finding contentment Forester. I always enjoy reading your posts and thanks for "popping in" to give hope and reassurance to those of us further down the line.

Think I am already seeing what you say about appreciating the small things.

Cloud 9 could eventually be in sight for you!

Best Wishes

Hi Forester

It''s lovely to hear from you, it brought a smile to my face imagining you out in the winter sun cold on the outside but wonderfully warm on the inside.

I have definitely left the early despairing camp behind me and I''m well on my way to my own clouds. This post gives hope not only to those starting on this journey but to those who are experimenting with learning how to bang their own drum, which funnily enough I always thought you did anyway.

You take care Forester and enjoy your day in the sun.

LG xXx

Thanks Forester, I also love hearing what others are getting up to as they rebuild their lives.

Forester wrote:

I wish I hadn''t been forced to go through the mill of anguish to get here; although I can''t help but wonder that if I hadn''t, maybe I wouldn''t appreciate all the small but joyous things that are in my life now to quite the same degree.
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Good on you Forester. Glad you are learning to live in the moment. This is perhaps one of the hardest things to explain about sep and div to someone that is embarking on the journey. There is an afterwards and there are many versions of my sunshine moment. But getting that across that is in the middle of a developing situation is tough. But your example explains your sunshine moment perfectly. Nice 1. Viva singletons... Marshy.

Thanks Forester.

Had I heard this two years ago I think I would have thought ''yes but that will never happen to me''. Yet now I know that although I have lost much, I have learned some very important lessons. Two years ago I thought there was no ''me'' only ''us'' (or more likely ''him''). Truth is, that is part of what was making me sad and crazy even while i believed myself in love, comfortably off and all that. Not in love, not comfortably off, have lost half of my family and a few of my friends, but have found myself and am finding new friends, new joys and new strength. Still got a way to go, but I think I am in many ways happier and healthier now than I was when with my x.

If I can do it, anyone can!

Take heart everyone!

xxx

Actually last week I glanced at my first posts,and my what a mess I was then.I actually thought I would never get over him,I really thought I would die of a broken heart.
As a couple we done everything together(except for his adultry lol)so stepping out on my own was going to be very hard.I thought my age would also hold me back,how wrong was I....

Since those dark days I have experianced places we would never have gone,I have met some amazing people,who I would never have had the pleasure of meeting,and luckily for me,some of those people are my dearest friends.

Yes in the early days of despair,those words"It will get better" do not seem relevant,but it does get better with time.Yes there is much I miss about my marriage,I would be lying if I said I never,but there is lots I do not miss,the eggshell walking is one of the biggest lol...

This time it''s my life,my rules and I don''t need to take crap from anyone.

Forester a lovely post,glad all is well with you x

Cwtchs
Afon xx