Hello again...

Just wanted to say Hi to everyone, I was last on here 3 years ago under a different name and found this site useful and supportive at the time so thank you..

After my divorce 6 years ago I really was at rock bottom, suicidal even and no-one and nothing could ever convince me that I would ever be happy again or in love.


What helped me was professional counselling at the time and also accepting that I was partly to blame for the downfall of my marriage. I had become too complacent amongst other things and didn''t acknowledge the signs that were there until it was too late.


What I have never done is ''bad mouth'' my ex.even though he had an affair. The only thing this does is cause bitterness that eats you up like a cancer and damage children which then has a knock on effect on their lives.

I was married for 22 years and a part of me will always love my ex ( we have 2 children ) but I have moved on and had other relationships and am now really happy.

I have learnt to live with what has happened, you never forget but you have to move on and look forward to the future.

Life is short, carpe diem

That''s lovely to hear.

Everyone says the words: things will get better, you''ll get past it, you''ll be happy again. It''s all just words, but it''s uplifting to hear from someone who''s got through it.

I wish you a happy life

Mouse

Thank you Belle, it''s great to hear that you got over it and are happy again. It really helps those of us who are still in the middle of it xxx

Meant to add that Bel Mooney who writes in the Daily Mail has a great book which may be of benefit to all of you going through such a range of emotions at the moment.It''s called ''Lifelines''.

Some of you may know that Bel went through a divorce and came out the other side and is now remarried. I feel that not only is she wise but she understands as has been through similar..

Worth a read..