How to be with your ex?

Fortunately we have no kids and the enemy has not spoken to me for eight months, but she does email or text when she needs something! But will not deal with the finances.

When she does message it''s as if we are best mates and will even put a little X at the end. This infuriates me as my replys are blunt and to the point.

She walked out because I was surplus to her requirements. From stuff she posts on Twitter she is having a wonderful life and like you, I think she has got off easy. We have a complicated financial situation and it''s causes me a lot of stress, but she refuses to deal with it until she is ready. She knows she is getting a big day (hopefully not as big as she wants).

I told my solicitor I would like to talk to her through a medium, he said you mean mediation, I said no a medium.

You have to keep laughing it''s the only way forward.

My stbx and I have an amicable relationship. I think this has been achieved on my part through separating out the partner side from the friend. We both belong to a couple of social things together, we live in a small village and I don''t drive so if we didn''t go together I wouldn''t get to go, and I''m not losing that as well. He is very polite, courteous and gentlemanly in his behaviour when we are out and although it grates on me I smile and think foul thoughts! He does not like talking about the ow and so I ask, because as the ad says...his face is priceless!!

It took a long time,but at least we are now amicable,but if I am honest that is me just being false to a certain degree...
When you shared your life with someone for over 30 years and then they betray you,how are you supposed to behave?
I treat him with respect,which he does not deserve.
I treat him with honesty,which he does not deserve.I treat him with reverance,which he does not deserve...
I treat him with compassion...a word he would not understand at all...
Basically I treat him better than he treats me,even though he was the one who had the affair,but I know it,he knows it...I am a better person than he will ever be,and to treat him like I treat everyone else is no great shakes..
Twonk is not my friend,friends would not treat others badly,all I see him as is the father of my daughter''s,and as a pillock:woohoo:

Love the medium remark Sky blue,gave me a smile.

Afon x