How do I know when I''m ready to date?

Almost 3 years since separation, over a year since the Nisi, but only a couple of months since the Absolute and the finances still aren''t agreed & probably heading for court.

I''m happy to be divorced. I don''t spill everything about it when chatting etc. Would rather be single and independent than in the wrong relationship. Which all seems a lot healthier than in the early days.

But is it still too soon to be thinking about dating? (I''m not a casual dating/FWB/multiple dating type, btw)

A very difficult question that you''ll probably only know once you have ''dipped your toe in the water''. I waited until my finances were sorted as it was a somewhat difficult and painful process. I thought I was ready but I certainly wasn''t prepared for some of the dating experiences. Looking back I was still pretty vulnerable in the early days and, after a 31 year marriage, dating was all a bit of a mystery. I had some pretty bad and potentially damaging experiences until, a year later, I met the man who I have now been with for over two years (it''s over 5 years since I first split with my ex).

Personally I wouldn''t want to be inflicting the trauma of a court battle on a new partner so, in your shoes, I would wait.