Oh dear- now he wants a reconciliation

Hi KJ

You''ve said "I do think it''s more to do with not being in the family unit rather than still being in love with me- and frankly I can''t believe I will ever be in the position of being able to trust him again. How should I let him down gently?"

Of course it is my lovely. I made the mistake of letting my ex back, albeit for a short while. He didn''t want me, he just wanted a warm place to live, with all the home comforts he was used to. I did everything in my power to try and make it right, but he was still seeing OW behind my back and I can''t now believe how gullible I was at that time. In my mind, once the trust has gone it cannot come back. He wanted to be back at home because that''s what was familiar to him.

I took the driving seat in my situation and refused to live in the shadow of that OW for the rest of my life. As it turns out, that was so the right decision for me, because my ex has been on and off with that OW since we separated for good. He can''t be without her. I don''t care if I never see him again quite frankly.

Think of yourself, put yourself first. If you have started to heal, why open up the wound again.

Good luck with whatever your decision is, but it needs to be right for you.

Take Care