Struggling

Action,you have found your strength and you fought your battle,so what would you gain?

You have moved forwards in your life,settled and happy again,yes its galling that they can treat the ones who cared the most abysmally,but that says it all about them..

This karma thing?
I don''t know,all I do know is you treat people badly,at some point you have to pay for it.
We have all suffered many knocks,but we can hold our heads up high and we have the greatest gift,our kids.,..
The Ex''s ??
Well they can continue to live in their fantasy world,without your family your nothing
They might be able to afford a more expensive care home to us,but without any visitors:woohoo:

Let it go hun,your worth more...
Cwtchs
Afon xx

Thanks Action. You are doing brilliantly and you have done brilliantly. Keep up the good work. I am hoping that all the flashbacks and things that my stbx has got away with will stop but im not sure they will until its no longer a secret that I have kept from my loved ones. My strength through all this comes from the fact that I have never lied about anything, but does hiding the truth keep you immersed in a place you dont want to be. Time will tell, im sure if it feels right at some point then I will tell all, but until then I will continue trying to rationalize it all in my brain.

Hi Action

You have done well and helped many others through the process, including myself. I agree with others (and you!) -let it go. I now realise how lucky I am to be free of the chaos caused by someone who had loose or no morals in business or the general way in which they conducted their life and would employ loophole lawyers to try and get them off the hook when found out. It is a relief not to have to worry about what mess they are going to create next and be in control of my own life and although financially my life is much different now it is a life built on solid foundations.

I’m sorry to read that this has upset you so much, but I entirely understand why. You have done so well coming through all that and have much to be proud of, because I know how hard you have worked to get to where you are now. Don’t allow this to sabotage all that. It’s obvious from the delightful character sketch of his morals and business dealings that he wasn’t fit to lick your boots.

You have been so generous of your time and support to so many wikis, helping them get through some awful times and it’s sad to see you fretting over this.

You are a wonderful, intelligent and caring person and please don’t allow this to derail your new life. As others have said, reflect on it and then let it go.

Oh my oh my, I feel quite overwhelmed and tearful at the responses and support from my Wiki friends. I know you''re right of course. I''m afraid I got as far as studying the online HMRC ''grass'' form today. One thing that will stop me is the fear of my sons finding out so that. combined with all your wise words, should help me to snap out of it!

Agree with the others Action....it seems that many of our ex partners (or the monster as Forester describes so well) have stolen from us in some way, hiding assets or outright stealing. But let this one go, it''s only going to cause more stress for you. X