Quick bit of advice needed

Wouldnt mind a quick opinion. I was in the car with my daughter (6) yesterday and she told me two things:

1. She said that she thinks her mum loves her new partners kids more than her. I asked her why and she said because she has being buying them nicer presents than what she gets. I tried to reassure her that her mum loves her loads.

2. Alternate saturday nights she stays either with me or with her mum at her new partners house. She told me that she no longer likes staying there and wants to be in her mums house when she is with her. I told her that I know its hard but she will be able to make her own decisions when she is older.

My dilemma is whether I let my ex partner know what she said. On the one hand I feel that it is important that she knows how my daughter is feeling and on the other hand I am worried that if I do say something she will say something out of turn to my daughter which might make it more difficult for my daughter to speak with me when she has something on her mind.

Any thoughts greatly appreciated.

Long term the trust your daughter has in you is the most important thing. If she brings it up again then ask her if she has spoken to mummy about how she feels. She might just be venting and not really want the boat rocked.

You did exactly the right thing in backing up the fact your X still loves her.

Many thanks for this advice and backed up what I was thinking.

I agree - reassuring children that they are still loved by both mummy and daddy is so important to them - when they are a younger age it is very difficult for them to understand what is going on and often they see things happening that they consider unfair.

You have the opportunity to build that trust with your daughter - allow her to talk freely about how she is feeling. I do the same with my children. Despite how my and ex and I feel about each other, the love for our children has not changed.

I have only shared with my ex things that I am concerned about that I believe need to be monitored. My youngest daughter puts her thoughts into a diary and I stumbled across when I was cleaning her room - some of the content was very heart felt yet very upsetting to read.

Other stuff that is shared that I believe is just a child''s way of venting some thoughts is listened too and answered but I don''t share it with my ex. I guess she does the same aswell.