stbx going on holiday

My stbx is going on a 10 day overseas holiday on Thursday, I found out via a third party, she was not intending to tell me. The children aged 15 and 11 will be being looked after by her mother. I am ok with both the holiday and her mother taking care, less so that I was not told.

However I have emailed to say I am happy to help her mother if she needs me to be flexible or help more while stbx is away and she has responded to say that she needs no help and that if i try to get involved and contact the children to change plans she will consider it as ''interference''. She has a barrister friend and the use of that word sounds legal speak to me, is there an implication for ''interference'' not sure where she is coming from?

Just to clarify, I have no history of bad behaviour or getting involved where I shouldn''t but she is very aggressive in all areas so I am trying to work out where she is coming from, if anywhere.....

Thanks

Do you have a contact order? If no I can''t see what legal advise she has been given as you both have equal responsibility when it comes to the children and she has no right to stop you having the children whilst she is away.

No it is all voluntary at the moment and been reasonably ok so far with regard to the children (not in other areas), except her communication has become zero over the last 3 months, this is the first contact of any kind in that time and she is ratcheting up the pressure in being difficult in many areas. I have my youngest once a week, this is regular and happens automatically without contact,it is any small change or additional that she does not consider, partly because she does not want the child maintenance payments diluted and partly because she wants to try and control my life as much as she can.

So i expect you are right, if i have no court order in place I cannot be in a legally compromised position and it is just words.

Thank you

It might not be a battle worth fighting. Just see the children as normal.