Sir R,
I don't think anyone should take you to task, you quite rightly make the point that a court always should have in mind, and anyone involved in negotiations at any stage or level should have in mind, that any settlement is a question of balance.
I can't comment on your particular situation: I recollect previous postings about the somewhat complex calculations involved in your pension sharing, and the strange figures it seemed to produce. I hope you yourself understood how it all worked by the end.
Overall, pensions are dealt with on the basis of what they are worth now, and a court can only share what they are worth now. Clearly they have value, and the value can be recognised as existing now, but it can't be accessed (assuming it is not yet in payment). So it is difficult to deal with something that can't be accessed but which is clearly very valuable. That is where all the difficulties in pensions stems from, as this forum shows.
But it is common for pension shares to be considered in terms of what effect they will have when they actually start paying out. That isn't necessarily a case of assuming that someone will keep working. Its just looking at what a particular pension split does in practice, as far as it can be predicted by calculation.
Pensions are difficult to deal with generally because they are an odd sort of asset, lots of potential value but very tied up and heavily controlled by tax and other law. I don't think anyone thinks we have come up with a perfect way of dealing with pensions. In Scotland they do it very differently (as with divorce claims generally). It is much more a fixed formula related to length of marriage compared to length of pensionable service. Better? Depends on the case. Certainly less flexible.
I very much hope you haven't been left with a vastly inferior pension to that which your wife got: that shouldn't generally happen, and whilst it may happen in an individual case for particular reasons, it shouldn't happen to you other than by choice or for very clear and specific reasons. Its not so much the % used as the effect of applying that percentage that is important, they are not always as closely linked as may be assumed. The % is applied to a
CETV at a particular date and pensions do not necessarily accrue value at an even pace. Some can leap hugely in value over short periods for various reasons. Maybe that was what was happening in your case, I don't know.
Ideally, you would achieve security and stability both at the current time, and for the future. But often there just isn't the money to achieve this. If two of you had about enough to be stable together, it is going to take nearly twice as much to achieve the same living separately, and not many people have 100% surplus cash/assets to hand. That is where all the bargaining and mutual belt-tightening comes in, with both sides having to make various concessions (or have them inflicted on them by a court).
But any settlement should leave you able to meet the necessities you refer to, as far as it is possible to do for both of you, fairly, with what is available. And if you are not sure of what you are actually getting, I think you should get your solicitor to make it clear to you: no point reaching a settlement for you if you don't understand what it is.
Best of luck sorting it out.