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Im sorry to post again but this is way over my head. Bit of a shock in court last week. Judge said no maintenance as I could sell property if I couldnt manage but used the capital in pension share %. Surely that has taken into account the benefit of keeping FMH.
If property worth 250k,
savings =300k
Would that not leave 50k to split equally, as it leaves him with 250k to purchase similar property that he to could sell if he needed more funds.
Having already accepted a lower pension share because capital value was used.
This is so much a case of H running all the finances so has complete understanding of everything and W not having a clue.
I appreciate it is very much more complicated than this but if you put everything into the pot and split it 50/50, after 30 yrs, wouldn't that be about right ?

Hi itsbeenalongtime,

Hope you are mostly doing ok ? How is the car these days ? I've read your posts about your hearings and very shocked to here you feel like you are being treated as a gold digger of sorts especially after 30 years hard labour !!

It worries me that the outcome can be so dependent on which judge you have. Are you likely to have the same judge for the next hearing ?

I have nothing useful to say in reply to your question but just wanted to say don't give up, stay strong, fight your corner and don't let him bully you into thinking you are not 'entitled' to 50/50.

X Hatton

In my experience yes the outcome does depend upon which judge you have, literally which side of the bed they got out of that morning.They can appear harsh and dismissive, others helpful and kind.I have gone through 7 so I am speaking through experience.

Thanks Hatton1, judge basically said as I knew he/we were planning on retiring early I could not expect him to fund me when he does retire. Bit of a shock as if he had told me he was retiring early then disappearing with mistress, I would have done things very differently. My barrister did try and point this out and he just said, its there in black and white, she knew he would be retiring early. End of. Interestingly he has filled in several information request sheets at work and said he would not retire until 60. He says what suits at the time.
Just worried about the pension sharing as dont want to get done twice.
xxx

How have you had 7 hearing? I thought the third was the end?
We spent a fortune on an actuary and now the judge basically dismissed it.
So my husband makes the rules, fills in the answers as to best outcome for him, has controlled our lives for 30+ years and now seems to be dictating what can and cant be done in court.
I have been as honest and straightforward as I possibly can and he has played the system brilliantly.
Best of luck, let us know how it goes. Will be thinking of you. xx

Sorry Hatton1, forgot the car. Been driving around for 10 days with no headlights as wire had snapped somewhere. Didnt know until coming back from a friends at dusk and only had very weak sidelights but fixed now thanks to my amazing friend. Everything is so tired on it, its just one thing after another. Had actually gone car shopping a few days before court thinking I was close enough to getting some money that it was worth looking. Wish I had`nt got my hope up.

I have had altogether,2 FDA's,1 FDR, 1 Enforcement hearing, 2 Variation hearings and 2 Final Hearing.
That is since 2013,very controlling ex who thought he knew better than the law.
I have finally achieved a Clean Break, however my ex has 6 months to meet the settlement.No doubt he will wait until the 11th hour to do so. I am hoping I do not have to return to court to enforce the lump sum.