Other people,s views that hurt me.

hi all, i have just returned from a family party and although i have been seperated for two years why is it people still feel the need to want to go through all the awful details of my marriage break down.? not only that but people who have no idea of how things can be in a difficult relationship think they have the right to comment on your life.I left for the party feeling happy and good and have returned with a massive knot in my stomach. My ex left me for someone much younger and it was a terrible thing to do ,but WHY do i feel so embarrassed still when i did nothing wrong.

(((Hugs))) YR

No it''s not nice & without being nasty to others You feel like saying "what''s it got to do with you?"

I hate the ones that expect you to have "moved on" by "getting someone else" ... None of their business & why are they all experts on our lives.

Sorry no answers, just understand how you feel.

JJx

Hugs YR,

How insensitive! - sometimes people treat others problems like a soap opera - only good for titillating gossip

What a shame scabs need to be picked over (again and again) TBH this happened with me and I found out the hard way the people I could socialise with; the people that feed me emotionally, make me feel good about myself and care about me and the people that just want to talk to me about gory details.

You''re doing so well!! Don''t let this set you back.

WR x

Thank you both very much. i guess it,s still just one day at a time for me.

Hi rose,
This is what i hate at the moment. Im only a few months into this horrible process and only just starting to talk to people about it. I find it really embarrassing.
I don''t have a big impressive story to tell people, he just walked out one day.
I''ve resorted to just saying that his behaviour was unacceptable.
Still raises questions and make me feel like a failure though.
I guess people just like a good gossip and this is hot news!

Not really helpful for you, but know that I feel the same x

Yes, sadly it is still one day at a time but you have come a very long way in a short time and you can be proud of that.

Sometimes we just have to let all the hurt feelings wash over us. Sorry that it spoiled the party for you but as WR says you soon learn who will be emotionally supportive and keep you positive.

Perhaps we get used to wiki friends just being non-judgemental and when we get out there we''re shocked to find these attitudes.

Could you just either put it down to them being concerned about you or just plain nosey and put it out of your mind now?

Make your ex and the younger woman an irrelevance in your life now. Why would you be ashamed of what they did? Indifference is what you''re aiming for now.

Hugs!

Hi

I''ve got the PLEASURE of my sisterinlaw & her husband coming down for the W/E on the 17th.
&&&&&&&&&they would love to meet up with me (& obviously her brother(my delightful stbx)
That is if I feel up to it.....
They will quite understand if I have made other arrangements......

Large part of me thinks "Hell no way. What exuse can I come up with??????"

Then I think "No I''m not going to chicken out.....