I've ruined my life

Hey, so nice to hear you are doing well. Sounds like you have moved on too now????

Good for you! xxx

OK, quick update...

Just had S21 round for a visit..he is close to his Mum and visits often...MIL apparently has a growth on her lung, not sure what it is yet, but if it's the C, then MIL will refuse treatment. FIL died of lung cancer 10 years ago. I hope she is ok. I sent a card to her with S21 tonight.

Right, more news...chuckle time...

Anyone that has followed my sitch will know of the 'very' close relationship between W and BFF and the 'cloning' they have been doing (more W following BFF). Anyway, I have now been informed that BFF has left her H and has her own flat in the same town as W!! S21 thought it was funny and wonders how long before they move in together. I thought that too.

How the worm has turned. Oh dear.

Please don't feel sorry or upset for me, I know I am a man's man and if my W has 'gone over the edge' and starts to live with BFF, then she will alienate many if not all of her past life! I find it rather amusing, strangely.

First of all I hope that your MIL will be ok.

As for your Wife and her BFF, it seems to be a case of watch this space????? Glad that you find it amusing though, a sign that you are concentrating on you and your life, and letting your Wife drift into her own, lets say, potential problems!!

Hi - I know the feeling - or at least I did! I'm not sure what to say as don't know your wife - but after so many years - there maybe a chance? You need to sort yourself out first and come off the alcohol - so please go to any support that is offered. After so many years together 1, 2 or 3 months won't make any difference - so don't stress about no contact - what you need to do is 'show' and 'prove' to your wife you are off the alcohol - and you can't do that in a matter of weeks. I have been seperated from my husband for 4 months - his choice - but I won't and wouldn't stray - as regardless - I still love him with all my heart. So don't stress! You need to remind your wife what you had - and what you could still have or revive! But you won't do that unless you are sober and genuine - and she knows you! So don't try to fool her! Let her know what you are doing and why - and then give her and you some space.....

RAK,

Thanks for the concern, but I am WAY past all that. The alcohol is no longer a problem, neither is my wife, at least not to me.

I know my thread is long, but it's all in there somewhere.

I hope that you manage to get yourself into a happy place as I have.

So does your wife prefer girls to boys now? Or am I getting the wrong end of the stick?

Well Mav, that's the way it's looking and has been for a while. I am now starting to believe that the original 'friend' WAS gay and that he was just part of the new 'scene' that W has become part of. I think it boils down to the fact that W met BFF when she was at her most vulnerable and BFF is such a strong personality (and is very masculine) that she has taken over.

They are quite welcome to each other! I have disliked BFF from the very first time I met her, WAY before any of this started.